Yup another one. Sorry but as a famous new testament scholar once said when all else fails read teamliquid.net.
In summary Told girl I liked her...got a sort of strange no response 4 months ago since shes leaving for a foreign trip. See her on regular basis, started to get better responses from her recently. Got a while before she leaves. I want to use this time to do something but not sure what...don't wanna be too pushy since she said no but at the same time don't want to do nothing.
Go for it if you feel that its the right thing to do. Only you can decide whether or not to act or not to. All I can say is don't let a good thing go by, and don't be too pushy.
i agree if you are on a level where girls dont want you, trying for them will make everything even worse you first need to be confident and look decent, actually looking good only helps, but if girls dont like you atm and nothing changes with your personality then theres no point in actually trying for a girl but if shes sending u signals just go for it like a man and learn from it, such experience is exactly what you need to become more manly - what girls want a confident, cocky man who knows how tot ake care of himself yo dawg
If you really can't let go of the thought of her, you should just ask her out directly, it is way better to get a plain no than to go around dealing with a maybe. If you get a no you can at least move on. Long time maybes are such waste of time. Good luck either way, though, hope she gives you a yes this time.
Do you find your sig makes it difficult for you to get responses to your posts?
if she said no she probably assumes you've taken that and you're now friends, don't misconstrue friendship as her changing her mind. she rememebers and if she changes her mind she'll let you know also do you really want to start something with her going away? put it out of your mind, maybe things will change when she comes back, maybe not.
EDIT: re-read.. you say that you got 'better responses' i've assumed that just means you've been friends. is that right?
lol regarding hitting the gym and such...im not a fat nerd. I'm totally thin, dress well, confident, relatively popular, everything. I could date other girls at university and such but I don't. It's this girl I want to be with.
Yeah but again how do I do this without being pushy? How should I go about this?
I have asked her out directly as possible and received a not now sort of thing... we agreed to meet and we spent the day together and i said to her.
I'm not really in favour of doing the same thing again. Perhaps something more subtle, less aggressive.
Yes we've been friends and continue to be. Not super close but yeah friends.
not super close is good, don't want to be a friend, you want more...
give her time... when i asked my girlfriend out i spent the first 3 days of our relationship thinking she had said maybe when she'd actually said yes (communication has never been our strong point!)
BUT its worth pushing for an answer, limbo sucks for you both. gl!
options: date until she leaves (that means you don't see her again if she says no again) remain friends until she leaves don't see her until she gets back
Yeah i dont mean super thin... i look normal/some muscular content. Man you people....back on topic!
lol at the "brick wall" post.
hmm yeah limbo sucks but kicking down the front door metaphorically speaking may not necessarily produce the desired result....thats in summary the whole issue here.
Its not a matter of what should I do its a matter of how.
LOL is this site even close to legit? (you can just lie about your gender and put some terrible advice for the opposite gender right? O____O).
At OP, not enough information, I guess? Girl blogs usually don't work very well, because we as guys cannot understand how in the world they think...right?