On June 21 2011 08:00 Jhuyt wrote:
6 months
6 months
You are one persistent guy. If you have to try this hard to try to "hook-up" with a girl, chances are she isn't digging you.
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rushz0rz
Canada5300 Posts
On June 21 2011 08:00 Jhuyt wrote: 6 months You are one persistent guy. If you have to try this hard to try to "hook-up" with a girl, chances are she isn't digging you. | ||
BrogMaN
United States108 Posts
On June 21 2011 09:44 ILOVEKITTENS wrote: I know you were asking to be cheered up, but it is my belief that short term humor is cheap and wisdom for the unexperienced is priceless. So, I am going to cheer you up in the long-term by making it so this doesn't happen to you again. You were "trying to hook up" with this girl, but she didn't tell you. This is due to one of 3 options:
It is my belief that it is the last point that is the most likely. It could be either of the other two, but there is not enough information to tell for sure, and even if there was - it's hard to trust second-hand retellings of how things came to be from a person who hasn't dated before. Not to sound rude, but it's generally accepted that people who don't have experience in a field tend to have a lot of misconceptions about it, or are easily misled. This is one of those cases, potentially. So, keep your mind open to all these possibilities, but we will focus on the last because it is the only one that you are in complete control of. So, for 6 months, you were doing whatever you were doing to woo her. It didn't work - she probably didn't even notice it. What does that mean? It doesn't mean she isn't perceptive enough to your subtle approach. It means that your approach is too subtle. I think that when you say "I have been trying to hook up with her," means "I have been hanging out with her and looking on behind a wall of helplessness as I find myself unable to express my desires to her." Therein lies your problem. If she was truly earnest about "liking you" [sic] (we'll get into this later), then you just lacked the initiative to make things official and open. The best advice I can give you is that next time you need to dip your balls in liquid steel and then swing them around. Make her FEEL that you like her, and THEN tell her. If she doesn't bite, then fuck it, you at least tried. Now you have wasted 6 months of courtship for a "coulda woulda shoulda" situation, and are turning to a StarCraft forum to pick you back up. Not today, brother. Today is a new day. Today, you take the first step to having solid-steel balls. Today, on a scale of 0 to pathetic, you are a 0. Yesterday, maybe you were an 8. Also, let us look into her statement of "liking you" [sic].
Once again, all viable options. But, I think the second one is the most likely. If it was the first, she wouldn't have spent so much time with you out of pity - no one is that generous. If it was the last, she would dump her current boyfriend, because you don't tell people you like them while liking someone else more. So, you are officially friend-zoned. However! Instead of continuously going after this girl, waiting for her to break up with her BF, this gives you (like you said) freedom from any pressure, and the freedom to hone your woman-getting skills to a level beyond just spending time with them and watch them fall into the arms of another dude. So, get your confidence up, go woo some girls, which will give you more confidence, then when she dumps her toolbag boyfriend you will be super-you, ready to pick up the pieces and be her hero. Good luck! FIGHTING! Hahaha that bolded part tipped me over the edge! You are quickly becoming one of my favorite posters, I'm even starting to love kittens too! Hopefully I can write a blog that you can provide some sagely wisdom for. OT: Yeah, listen to Torte and Kittens, they have some good advice. From my own personal experience I believe I was a lot like you during highschool, I was friend-zoned with a good number of girls because I was too subtle and hoped they'd get the hints, but then I went off to college and got laid a couple days after my 19th birthday wooo! That relationship only lasted like 2 months but it was a good first step. I definitely still need to work on my womanizing skills but it's improving. Don't feel too rushed to bone someone, just take it a step at a time. Good luck! | ||
jlim
Spain943 Posts
On June 21 2011 10:51 n.DieJokes wrote: Man, why do we even have girl threads anymore? Just pm ILOVEKITTENS his inbox's gonna break if we do so | ||
LosingID8
CA10824 Posts
On June 21 2011 10:51 n.DieJokes wrote: Man, why do we even have girl threads anymore? Just pm ILOVEKITTENS i wouldn't wish that cruel cruel fate upon anyone... not even csheep | ||
KawaiiRice
United States2914 Posts
no care no scare | ||
Greatness
United States450 Posts
On June 21 2011 11:38 KawaiiRice wrote: dude i am just as pathetic as you no care no scare Stop lieing Kawaii, playing SC got you tons of women* | ||
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
On June 21 2011 09:34 obesechicken13 wrote: Show nested quote + On June 21 2011 09:13 FreezerJumps wrote: I think your winning attitude and self-esteem intimidated her. Next time try to be super shy and self-defeating. That's horrible advice! He should be himself or something... Show nested quote + On June 21 2011 08:13 Torte de Lini wrote: Wait. I don't understand, you feel pathetic because you haven't engaged in a certain aspect of your life at a relatively young age? The sole view that that is pathetic, is probably the most pathetic. It comes at different times for different people, don't feel obligated or pressured to pursue something purely because of when you assume it is suppose to happen. Some people don't engage in much of anything til their mid-twenties when they have less to focus on (schooling, family, sports, etc.). No big deal. Yeah, but there's all sorts of pressure, like being called virgin by your friends, or your parents asking you every time if you have a girlfriend when they call you. I think my parent's nagging was getting to me. Not really good friends if they're shaming you. and your parents should reconsider their values like you do. | ||
evanthebouncy!
United States12796 Posts
my blog post, read it. can't believe I spent my 10k post on you hahahaha | ||
Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
The best advice I can give is to stop trying. Be yourself, get involved in activities you enjoy, and constantly put yourself in different rooms with different people. You're going to meet someone eventually. And yes, feel free to message Che....I mean...ILOVEKITTENS for more candid advice. This is more of an attention blog anyway, so perhaps quantity is better than quality? | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32009 Posts
On June 21 2011 11:22 LosingID8 wrote: Show nested quote + On June 21 2011 10:51 n.DieJokes wrote: Man, why do we even have girl threads anymore? Just pm ILOVEKITTENS i wouldn't wish that cruel cruel fate upon anyone... not even csheep you just don't understand the plight of the insecure nerd man up op, 6 months is far too long for no action! | ||
ProbeYourSCV
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zhurai
United States5660 Posts
On June 21 2011 08:00 Jhuyt wrote: The thing is that I have never had a relationship ever. And I'm 18 years old. so? I'm 19. No girlfriend :> | ||
Poo
Canada536 Posts
On June 21 2011 10:51 n.DieJokes wrote: Man, why do we even have girl threads anymore? Just pm ILOVEKITTENS qft. I think it'd be neat if Chill or someone gave him an ID tag as ILOVEGURU or something.. maybe even a heart emoticon beside his name. xD | ||
Tomfour
United States173 Posts
On June 21 2011 08:00 Jhuyt wrote: The thing is that I have never had a relationship ever. And I'm 18 years old. Seriously I haven't even had one of those fake ones you had when you were 12. And I have never been kissed. I feel pretty pathetic right now. Don't worry bro, the selected part goes the same for me, except I'm freaking 20. | ||
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