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If you lead a happy life, you're far from an underachiever. And to lead a happy life you don't necessarily need to be good in anything but living itself.
What do you do? Forget them. From what I've seen, Asian communities enjoy talking about their best and brightest, so the performance of the entire Asian community is inflated. Focus on yourself, and set personal goals for yourself, not based off of the "perfect" model Asian.
Source: Personal experiences and observations
The good news is that you're still in high school; you have the vast majority of your life still ahead of you. Start working harder today, and just work at improving yourself day by day. Don't get discouraged if you aren't the best next week, next month, or next year. Set personal goals, better yourself, and stop comparing yourself to everyone else around you.
If you don't get into a college of your choice, try taking a couple years in a JC and really boost your grades and then apply to a university.
This is what I've realized, and how I deal with the fact that some people can get to a level of proficiency at something that I've put years into: there are somethings people are objectively JUST BETTER THAN YOU at. Hey wait, that says 'objectively', but as humans we have no right to say 'objectively better' because we can't see or measure that.
You're only truly measured 'how far you've gotten' versus 'your own potential'. You're gonna have to accept different people have different potentials, but what's more important is that you fulfull what you CAN do. Different ~objective~ achievements have different value for different people, so don't get down by self-entitiled kids, put your head down and work -not for the sake of what people say about you, but for your own (satisfaction's) sake.
It's often not about the amount of hours you put into something but rather the way you approach that time. Learn to critically analyze things you do and point out the underlying weaknesses rather than throwing a blanket statement out there like "I'm not good at <insert activity>." Find out what it is that you specifically are struggling with and address that issue. Some things you simply don't need to focus on...if you know that music isn't your deal then don't make that a priority. Do what you need to do to get past the hurdle and get yourself into a spot where you feel comfortable.
Some people will do well in high school and be average in college while others will thrive in the college environment even if high school wasn't their best 4 years. You'll have more flexibility to choose what you like and you will actually have a chance to branch out from the basic liberal arts education that we have in the states. You'll still have your core classes that you have to take but I challenge you to choose elective courses that seem like they might be interesting. I started off as a computer science major but took a cognitive psychology class that I really enjoyed. The comp sci was alright but I didn't see myself doing that as a job so I changed my major and jumped into psychology and neuroscience. I'm now applying for grad school to do the same thing but I would have never been able to tell you that when I was in high school.
Focus on the next step...life is all about figuring out how to deal with the crap that gets thrown at you, minimizing its affect, and pushing forward with the things that really matter to you. You aren't bad because someone else does something better, and you can't fail because you see someone else succeeding at a level you aren't right now. The only failure that will happen is if you decide that you can't succeed. We're all our own limiting factor...your potential is there for you to seize and if you make an effort to tap into that resource, you WILL NOT be a failure.
Sure there will be people who are better at you at stuff. Maybe even things you work in, or things you have a passion for. But at the end of the day, if you can tell yourself you tried your hardest, there's nothing to be ashamed of. Be a decent person, give it try your hardest, raise a family maybe, and then you die. They straight up make movies about people like this. I mean how many people do you find honestly give their 100% in anything in life? That's admirable.
Think of Starcraft II pro's. Most don't win big tournaments. Look at MajOr. He hasn't won shit, in SC or SCII. But he's pretty well known for his work-ethic, for how hard he tries. That and his seventeen name changes. But also for his work ethic. Look at that random dude, CarN, who got a mini-cult on TL just because he busted his ass in Korea, despite not having any results. Follow any sport league and there are people known for just trying as hard as they can, no matter their actual results. In school everyone knows the kids who study all the time and try as hard as they can. People respect hard-work.
Bottom line - don't worry about results. Do your best. Profit.
Look at things you appreciate and what you enjoy in your life. The asian college race doesn't define life, as you will see in 10-15 yrs, as long as you're happy and doing something you enjoy. Getting an education is always a good idea IMO. But beating yourself up and (Sry) whining is just going to hamper the natural development of life.
So, name 3 things you enjoy. And your 3 fondest memories Let's start there.
My point here is not that I'm very successful, but that success takes time, also I suggest, just as everyone else has said, to chin up, soldier . Believe me it helps. Confidence in yourself is the fast track to success, and you can be smiling all along the way to it .
It ultimately comes down to what you dedicate your time and patience to. Even then success requires a bit of luck.
But the way you live basically boils down to two decisions. You can 1.) Continue the way you've done things or 2.) Change
If you aren't happy with the way things are, choose the latter and make em the way you want.