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i think a lot of people are very quick to judge and simply pass this off as a "bitch" acting crazy. what one might forget is that, like is said before, she could be a little confused, and by that i mean not sure how she can reconcile her self-stated ethic of going for more mature men and the feelings she might have for you ( who doesnt seem to fit her "target group").
what you two should do is talk about it. dont keep her at arms length. for all you know this might be causing her some suffering. ive been in that situation too where someone is making him/herself scarce and you are left with the desire to get in contact with that person. if youve grown emotionally attached to that person it can be quite painful.
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On April 07 2012 18:01 Black[CAT] wrote: Is she Chinese?
Ahahaha. I wonder how many people here will have experienced the same.
This girl seems really clingy and socially dumb. She doesn't know what she wants from you. She's insecure and spams your phone with text messages, that would turn me the hell off. She's bad news and you should stay away.
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Clearly, she wanted to be fuckbuddies.
Hey! Chance of a lifetime, where are you going!
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Hmmm... If she's really hot and everything, I'd recommend keeping her around as a fuckbuddy, but I wouldn't recommend starting a relationship with her. Women that insecure usually make for poor GFs, she's most likely very very jealous, which would just make it worse.
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I think it might be a good idea to ask a close friend or two of hers (who's also a good friend of yours) if she's ever done this to other people, and why.
But I'd recommend staying away from speculation. I think it's impossible to figure out what a woman is thinking ... you just gotta admit ignorance and ask her haha.
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She's looking for someone (but not you) and it isn't working out. She's confused herself with her dissapointing love-life and you, good sir, are the victim.
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This is just my own experience, but if I ever felt utterly confused in a relationship, it was usually what the girl was going for. If the intentions are unclear, they're usually bad. This case might be an exception but it sure sounds like a woman that wants to take advantage of you.
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I'm not going to lie, but a majority of my male friends seem to be dating crazy women. The sad reality is setting in that perhaps all women are crazy.
That being said, I think that this woman is simply confused. She is obviously thinking about you and has wanted to, and you're not her picture perfect late-20s to early-30s man with a stable job. There's a good chance that she's upset at you for making her like you, as ridiculous as that sounds. I'd back away slowly, and if she doesn't get the hint, there are always less subtle ways to tell her how you feel.
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Get as much sex as possible. Stay away from anything else. This girl seems to have the crazy eyes!
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Don't stick your dick into crazy.
One of the few useful tips from reddit.
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+ Show Spoiler +On April 07 2012 18:46 Ahelvin wrote:Show nested quote +On April 07 2012 18:31 Azzur wrote: They do this mostly unconsciously and they can't help but do it.
Are we talking about human beings there, or are we conducting a field study about some strange animal? I'm not quite sure from your answer... Actually the more I read it, the more it looks like some guide to educate your pet... Show nested quote +On April 07 2012 18:31 Azzur wrote: Basically, what you're doing now is rewarding her bad behaviour - in the past, you've been answering the texts even though you've got nothing concrete in return.
Relevant: To OP: I really don't think you shouldn't take any advice from a forum visibly crowded with people thinking they know everything about women because they read "PUA" forums regularly. My piece of advice is what I stated above: do not see this kind of behaviour differently because she is a woman. What would you think of a male friend or co-worker acting incoherently? Either he is crazy, or he can't seem to tell you something that is bothering him. The same applies to this situation, and depending on what you think is true you should: 1°) Do not see this person again 2°) Ask the person to stop acting childishly and demand an explaination
man that shit is deep.......
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On April 07 2012 17:57 EngrishTeacher wrote: [s] I never would have imagined someone could be this crazy / emotionally unstable / manipulative / etc. ?
Keep the following in mind when making any decision regarding hot/crazy girls.
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Listen, you get choose 2 out of the 3 - batshit crazy, hot, intelligent. She happened to be hot and intelligent.
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As others have said, leave her be, you don't need that shit. If you want to keep her number around to hook up with her every now and then after a party, by all means, but she's not relationship material. Your average 21 year old is not terribly mature. My guess is that she's been looking around at most guys her age, throwing her hands in the air in frustration, and concluding that she needs to look for older partners, but she didn't realize that she was actually just as immature.
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On April 07 2012 18:01 Black[CAT] wrote: Is she Chinese?
This.... Is sadly what I thought too. Sounds like my ex-wife >.>.
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I can only say one thing to this.
ABORT ABORT ABORT!!!!!
Seriously bro, get out while you still have your balls attached.
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To her you probably look as crazy as she does to you. Guy asks me out, I decline because I don't think I'm ready, we have sex because I was drunk, then I decided I wanted to be with him... but now he doesn't have time for me!? What's wrong with this guy!
Just try being sane and trying to explain everything from your perspective, and let her do the same. In my experience 99% of disagreements stem from misinformation or poor perception about the situation.
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On April 08 2012 01:18 UmiNotsuki wrote: To her you probably look as crazy as she does to you. Guy asks me out, I decline because I don't think I'm ready, we have sex because I was drunk, then I decided I wanted to be with him... but now he doesn't have time for me!? What's wrong with this guy!
Just try being sane and trying to explain everything from your perspective, and let her do the same. In my experience 99% of disagreements stem from misinformation or poor perception about the situation. you owe me $5
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