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It's June 17th again. What does that mean? Yes, it's Father's day. It's the day to honor your father, the man who has cared for you since birth. It's something i've always wanted to celebrate, but never could. My father is a deadbeat parent, meaning that he has chosen to abandon me in every way. Be that financially or emotionaly. I've never met my father. Hell, i've only seen a single picture of him. I have no idea what he's like or what kind of man he is. I've never gotten a bear hug from my father, or listened to him give me a lecture. I've never had him at one of my birthday parties, or had him over for christmas. I remember when I was a really little kid, I finally figured out the concept of not having a parent. I "confronted" (I use that term lightly) my mother about it. I remember her starting to cry while sitting on our living room couch. Being that young, and seeing my mother so upset, I couldnt help but cry too. We sat there, huddled together, bawling for what was probably 10-15 minutes. She eventually told me that he had left my mother when he found out she was pregnant. When I asked if I could meet him, she completely lost her emotional control and turned on the TV for me to watch while she went and cried in her room. She had to have been in there for hours. A part of me hates him for abandoning my mother. My family has been very poor for a large part of my life, and that is very difficult for a single parent. My mother, god bless her, has done everything she could to make me feel alright. She's an amazing parent, and i'm very lucky to have her. I'm going to be 18 within a year. An adult in the eyes of the government. I wonder what kind of man I will be compared to my father. I want to be a better, more responsible person. I hate the fact that I may never meet him. I want to tell him all the times that I wish that he was there for me. All the times I had to watch a friends father be there for his kids and I couldnt experience that. All the times that I wanted him to teach me. All the times I wished I could've seen him. Today is Father's Day. Call your father, or spend time with him. Do whatever you can to appreciate him because you're lucky enough to be able to do that.
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There is nothing I could support more.
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100% agreed.
My parents got divorced about 10 years ago. He was pretty much a deadbeat father, and my parents would argue all the time because of it. Now my two younger brothers and I are much better off living with just my mom, despite the fact that she's a single mother raising three college (or college-bound) kids on a teacher's salary (with my father paying so little- despite having a shitload of money- that you could hardly call it "child support").
Here's an idea of how cheap he was:
We went to visit him once, about a year after the divorce (he had moved from New Jersey to Florida), and we didn't do anything *interesting* there (because come on, it's not like there are any interesting theme parks or places to go in Florida...). What we did do, however, is go to a movie theater. And not one with the recent movies, but a $1 movie theater that showed movies that were 2-3 years old. And he's so cheap, that he purposely waited until Tuesday to bring us... because that's when tickets were half price.
So fucking fortunate to have an amazing mother. lol.
If you have a dad- not just a sperm donor- be thankful for him and enjoy your Father's Day with him. Do something special for him, because you've probably taken him for granted if he's at least been a support structure in your life. ♥
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More seriously:
Well this is kind of a depressing blog but at the very least, having a deadbeat father will insure that you, as a person, won't become one. it's a terrible price to pay for that kind of lesson but it's some consolation. You also have your mother who sounds amazing. respect for what she's been through. kind thoughts to you and your family, bro <3
Crass, distasteful joke, dark humor and probably inappropriate: + Show Spoiler +Better a deadbeat father than a father that beats you dead.
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