So usual backstory, met a girl in school, shes pretty cute, nice personality, blah blah blah. dont want to bore you to death about it.
so we've only known each other for like... not even a full week yet. we talk everyday every second we can and we hangout in school or w.e. we flirt a lot but she gives me weird signals and stuff, like idk if she likes me or not. she says im a great friend (coughfriendzonecough) but suggests a lot of ideas that seems that she likes me, like going on "dates" and stuff (taking her places, do stuff together without anyone else, etc.)
then out of the blue today, while we're talking, she asks me to fuck. i have no idea if shes trolling me (doesn't seem like the type though she did troll me when she told me she was a lesbian). shes only a freshman right now while im a senior. and she tells me shes not a slut or anything (i can believe that) but shes also given a guy a handjob as the most shes ever done with other guys. the problem is, everything that shes told me about herself so far points to someone who wouldn't want to randomly just ask a guy to fuck.
what do you guys think? is she just trolling or does she actually want the penor?
yes this is a shitty blog, this is my first one. give me a break ><
why does it matter? wouldn't your answer to her question be the same whether shes trolling or not? just tell her of course you want to fuck, you're a guy so half the time you walk around with a hard on looking for a home. if you give your answer in a half-joking half-serious way then you can see whether shes fucking with you or not. worse case is that she wont put out and you can laugh it off and get on with your day. best case is that you get some easy pussy.
That doesn't make any sense, either the story is made up or one/neither of you wanted to fuck, or you are just retarded. If she said that, then that means she wanted to go asap unless she was kidding. The moment has passed so your entire question is irrelevant.
On October 28 2013 02:31 DanLee wrote: That doesn't make any sense, either the story is made up or one/neither of you wanted to fuck, or you are just retarded. If she said that, then that means she wanted to go asap unless she was kidding. The moment has passed so your entire question is irrelevant.
its not made up. at all. tbh i think shes kidding but the way she phrased it and stuff makes it seem like its not. idek. its w.e. at this point.
On October 28 2013 02:34 Bagration wrote: When you say freshmen and senior, do you mean college or high school?
I think this is the most important. If you're still in high school then I'd say don't do it, you are probably 17-18 and she is probably 14-15. That's just kind of weird. It would only create problems. In my opinion you should find someone you like closer to your own age.
If you're in college then I don't know. The way you portray her makes her seem mentally unstable and very odd. I would personally try to find someone that is more normal. Not that it's bad to be a little weird, but she sounds like the crazy kind of weird. I mean, you've only known her for a week and she just asked you to have sex. People don't normally ask other people to have sex outright.
TBH it would be pretty easy to figure out this guy's info from his past blogs but I'd be pretty pissed if someone actually came up with all of that info on me without asking I'd be kind of creeped out and nervous.
On October 28 2013 03:55 Chocolate wrote: TBH it would be pretty easy to figure out this guy's info from his past blogs but I'd be pretty pissed if someone actually came up with all of that info on me without asking I'd be kind of creeped out and nervous.
There's this really important sentence you used at the beginning that had to do with how long you've known each other. There's no trust built up, there's no relationship beyond your infatuation. Without that trust someone will get hurt. Despite the societal pressure for men to have sex and how much it's trivialized in the media and in porn, sex is pretty serious business. Imagine you were asked to start a business with someone after knowing them for four days.
My read on the situation: since you are not making any moves (ie have you kissed her yet? Probably not) she threw that your way to see if she could get you moving somehow. Half joking half not in order to not look like a slut.
How to proceed from here: Fuck her. Just invite her for dinner at your place and bingo. On a silver plate. Alternatively: Continue doing whatever you are doing and loose her interest in around 1 week.
Edit: Unless if she is 14 or 15. In this case disregard above and just touch her boobs instead.
Invite her over, but instead of sex, watch the entire Flash vs Fantasy series from the Bigfile MSL. No way anyone in the world could provide entertainment of that intensity and length with just sex.
Don't do it if it is rape according to law. Don't do it. Not worth the risk. Also if she randomly asked you like that she probably doesn't know what she really wants.
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
On October 28 2013 05:26 Nerevar wrote: Invite her over, but instead of sex, watch the entire Flash vs Fantasy series from the Bigfile MSL. No way anyone in the world could provide entertainment of that intensity and length with just sex.
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
Yeah but she is a freshman. Grade 9 vs. Grade 12. There is a high probability that she is 14, and OP turns 18 in about 3 weeks.
As for the bolded, it is a very easy way to fuck up your life. I hope you aren't being serious.
It seems I am the only person here who has a problem with a relationship between a 14-15 yo and a 17-18 yo that have only known each other for a week. WTF? indeed.
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
Yeah but she is a freshman. Grade 9 vs. Grade 12. There is a high probability that she is 14, and OP turns 18 in about 3 weeks.
As for the bolded, it is a very easy way to fuck up your life. I hope you aren't being serious.
It seems I am the only person here who has a problem with a relationship between a 14-15 yo and a 17-18 yo that have only known each other for a week. WTF? indeed.
Sex is sex. Sex isn't rape or age or life threatening. Chill out dude.
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
Yeah but she is a freshman. Grade 9 vs. Grade 12. There is a high probability that she is 14, and OP turns 18 in about 3 weeks.
As for the bolded, it is a very easy way to fuck up your life. I hope you aren't being serious.
It seems I am the only person here who has a problem with a relationship between a 14-15 yo and a 17-18 yo that have only known each other for a week. WTF? indeed.
Sex is sex. Sex isn't rape or age or life threatening. Chill out dude.
Here's the thing: a girl decides she isn't satisfied, she gets pregnant, or her parents find out and disapprove. If any of these things occur, she can call it rape, because sex between someone who is 17 and someone who is younger than 17 is considered statutory rape (age of consent may depend on state/country). Romeo and Juliet laws help, but can only go so far.
If she's 14 and you're 17, you can get pretty boned.
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
Yeah but she is a freshman. Grade 9 vs. Grade 12. There is a high probability that she is 14, and OP turns 18 in about 3 weeks.
As for the bolded, it is a very easy way to fuck up your life. I hope you aren't being serious.
It seems I am the only person here who has a problem with a relationship between a 14-15 yo and a 17-18 yo that have only known each other for a week. WTF? indeed.
Sex is sex. Sex isn't rape or age or life threatening. Chill out dude.
Here's the thing: a girl decides she isn't satisfied, she gets pregnant, or her parents find out and disapprove. If any of these things occur, she can call it rape, because sex between someone who is 17 and someone who is younger than 17 is considered statutory rape (age of consent may depend on state/country). Romeo and Juliet laws help, but can only go so far.
If she's 14 and you're 17, you can get pretty boned.
you can get boned anytime if someone you have sex with accuses you of rape at any time. Just have to use good sense.
On October 28 2013 05:27 Froadac wrote: Don't do it if it is rape according to law. Don't do it. Not worth the risk. Also if she randomly asked you like that she probably doesn't know what she really wants.
Consider the question of whether or not you're going to feel like a huge creep doing it. If you ask her to, she will probably consent, since she is looking to you as someone more experienced and she wants to get experience herself and hurry and grow up. In my heart I'd know that was wrong ;p Plenty of people do just that, though. Not the most uncommon story to hear about the high school girl whose boyfriend is finished school and has a real life job (at the gas station). You're not a world apart from that.
Either way, I think you have to recognize that you are the one in control here, and the implications that come with it ;p You can't play innocent when her dad wants to kill you lol
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
Yeah but she is a freshman. Grade 9 vs. Grade 12. There is a high probability that she is 14, and OP turns 18 in about 3 weeks.
As for the bolded, it is a very easy way to fuck up your life. I hope you aren't being serious.
It seems I am the only person here who has a problem with a relationship between a 14-15 yo and a 17-18 yo that have only known each other for a week. WTF? indeed.
Sex is sex. Sex isn't rape or age or life threatening. Chill out dude.
Here's the thing: a girl decides she isn't satisfied, she gets pregnant, or her parents find out and disapprove. If any of these things occur, she can call it rape, because sex between someone who is 17 and someone who is younger than 17 is considered statutory rape (age of consent may depend on state/country). Romeo and Juliet laws help, but can only go so far.
If she's 14 and you're 17, you can get pretty boned.
you can get boned anytime if someone you have sex with accuses you of rape at any time. Just have to use good sense.
ya, srsly. use protection and make the most of this opportunity OP
i don't get why 99% of the posters here are afraid of OP getting busted for statuatory or 'getting busted'. did any of u guys even go to high school? people were smashing all the time, people's parents found out all the time, but people weren't getting busted for statuatory any of the time. srsly, the most that happens is girls'/guys' parents force them to break up and/or make them move schools.
Seeing as you came to us for advice on this sensitive issue I can deduce that you make terrible decisions so whatever you end up deciding to, do the opposite of that.
On October 28 2013 09:40 n.DieJokes wrote: Seeing as you came to us for advice on this sensitive issue I can deduce that you make terrible decisions so whatever you end up deciding to, do the opposite of that.
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
Yeah but she is a freshman. Grade 9 vs. Grade 12. There is a high probability that she is 14, and OP turns 18 in about 3 weeks.
As for the bolded, it is a very easy way to fuck up your life. I hope you aren't being serious.
It seems I am the only person here who has a problem with a relationship between a 14-15 yo and a 17-18 yo that have only known each other for a week. WTF? indeed.
Sex is sex. Sex isn't rape or age or life threatening. Chill out dude.
Here's the thing: a girl decides she isn't satisfied, she gets pregnant, or her parents find out and disapprove. If any of these things occur, she can call it rape, because sex between someone who is 17 and someone who is younger than 17 is considered statutory rape (age of consent may depend on state/country). Romeo and Juliet laws help, but can only go so far.
If she's 14 and you're 17, you can get pretty boned.
you can get boned anytime if someone you have sex with accuses you of rape at any time. Just have to use good sense.
ya, srsly. use protection and make the most of this opportunity OP
i don't get why 99% of the posters here are afraid of OP getting busted for statuatory or 'getting busted'. did any of u guys even go to high school? people were smashing all the time, people's parents found out all the time, but people weren't getting busted for statuatory any of the time. srsly, the most that happens is girls'/guys' parents force them to break up and/or make them move schools.
Ok, so maybe you don't get charged with statutory. That's fine. You had sex. That's great. But what if charges are pressed? Then it's over. GG. End of the line. You have a colossal felony on your record. Your life ends right there.
It.
Ends.
Right.
There.
It is NEVER worth taking a risk that large when you can just wait a few months/years and find someone else to bang. I mean, I know that adolescents aren't capable of forming good long-term decisions, but seriously. You might as well take a thousand dollar dare to point what you're told is an unloaded gun at your head and pull the trigger.
Definite no. This is a trap. You gain nothing by having sex with this girl. If you want, tell her you're interested but you want to wait to know her better.
This is a fucking trap btw. Not like 'to catch a predator' but 'this cannot possibly end well at all.'
go for it buddy if you really wanted although fair warning that it might not end well for you both stated by people here(regarding rape and stuff) and also for the two of you.. she is probably just curious with how sex is ..
On October 28 2013 02:21 FlaShFTW wrote: then out of the blue today, while we're talking, she asks me to fuck. i have no idea if shes trolling me (doesn't seem like the type though she did troll me when she told me she was a lesbian). shes only a freshman right now while im a senior. and she tells me shes not a slut or anything (i can believe that) but shes also given a guy a handjob as the most shes ever done with other guys. the problem is, everything that shes told me about herself so far points to someone who wouldn't want to randomly just ask a guy to fuck.
what do you guys think? is she just trolling or does she actually want the penor?
yes this is a shitty blog, this is my first one. give me a break ><
Did you know girls like having sex too? Who would've thought...
On October 28 2013 02:21 FlaShFTW wrote: then out of the blue today, while we're talking, she asks me to fuck. i have no idea if shes trolling me
THEN YOU SHOULD BEGIN TO MAKING FUCK. GET OFF TEAMLIQUID.
On October 28 2013 02:21 FlaShFTW wrote:everything that shes told me about herself so far points to someone who wouldn't want to randomly just ask a guy to fuck.
She trusts you enough that she thinks there won't be any negative repercussions after you guys slam genitals together.
Even if she is "trolling" you. Look at this logically. THE WORST OUTCOME IS THAT YOU TWO WILL NOT FUCK. If you make a move, you might get your dick wet. If you make a move and rejects you, you won't get laid and that's the end of it. If you don't make a move, you won't get laid and you'll be stuck with thinking of what might've been.
On October 28 2013 04:54 traceurling wrote: Is she hot? Do it if so...
Dude she is probably 14 or 15.
Give me a break. It's a two year difference between Grade10-Grade12. So if he's 17 and she's 15, he can very well think she's hot. I don't see the issue >_>
The suggestions here. Are people really telling someone not to have sex with someone because the age difference classifies as rape? Really, do people even follow these laws? Man... wtf.
Anyway, I like the advice you received of saying yes in a joking way, or more like in a "well I don't know if you could handle me way". Don't just be like, yeaah I wanna fuck you. Makes you look too easy and makes it seem you'll have sex with anything that moves. Good luck.
Yeah but she is a freshman. Grade 9 vs. Grade 12. There is a high probability that she is 14, and OP turns 18 in about 3 weeks.
As for the bolded, it is a very easy way to fuck up your life. I hope you aren't being serious.
It seems I am the only person here who has a problem with a relationship between a 14-15 yo and a 17-18 yo that have only known each other for a week. WTF? indeed.
On October 28 2013 02:31 relyt wrote: why does it matter? wouldn't your answer to her question be the same whether shes trolling or not? just tell her of course you want to fuck, you're a guy so half the time you walk around with a hard on looking for a home. if you give your answer in a half-joking half-serious way then you can see whether shes fucking with you or not. worse case is that she wont put out and you can laugh it off and get on with your day. best case is that you get some easy pussy.
That's not the kind of question you give answers to in a half-joking way. Jaedong stare and confirm is the only way to not fail.
Edit: Oh this is high school freshman girl not uni? Well then, I guess it's a bit more complicated.
If she is a freshman in HS she is likely 13-14 and if your a senior your 17-18. One I would consider statutory rape laws in your state as that is serious. 2 yes while girls like sex and all that you have to consider the mental state of someone barely into their teenage years and how that can be a mess. Third you say its rather out of the blue so who knows what she is thinking considering she claims it will be her 1st time (maybe she just "wants to get it out of the way") and she thinks your good enough to give it to. Just think about it and the possible consequences before you decide.
Does sound a little like a slut, not necessarily sleep about all over the place, but..well, there are different levels. :p If she was suggesting "going on dates" and meeting with just the two of you before, I'd say it was pretty obvious already that you weren't being "friendzoned". :p Not trolling in my opinion and I don't see why being trolled would be so bad here except that yeah, you could be committing a crime if the age is really that low. I tend to forget the ages of people at these US terms like "freshmen" etc. Don't do it if it's that young. On the other hand, I'm tempted to agree with Shauni about this post... It is a pretty stupid sort of post regardless. I feel this is exactly the sort of supposed girl blog that should get trolled.
So actually, what you don't realise, is she's one of those people that look very young for their age and she is a little over 30 years old. Things haven't gone right for her, drugs were a large part of her life in the past and she hasn't "found her way" in life, she's been manipulative in the past and lost her numerous past groups of friends once they realised how dodgy she was but as she's not a completely thick person either, so she's actually got a really devious plan going, probably involving getting pregnant to you and getting you to pay welfare. In fact, she's probably raking in all the study money from the numerous young students she's intentionally gotten knocked up by. It's a trap, man, she's after your pocket money.
On October 28 2013 05:50 vlaric wrote: "TL, girl wants the D, what should i do?!"
come on man, just smash already and get it over with
EDIT: after seeing ur pic in another thread, i highly recommend u smash. u may never get this opportunity again (SRS)
wtf?
This guy is good looking if anything. Certainly not ugly. Not to mention looks are not all that important for attracting women. There is zero reason to think he would "never get this chance again", and many reasons to think he will get chances like this many times (albiet not in such a direct fashion)
Anyway, I will offer sagely advice. Even if we put dumb legal issues aside, 14 year olds are awful, sex with 14 year olds is awful, and relationships with 14 year olds are beyond awful. I don't see where the good side of that deal is. Probably because there isn't one.
Since it came right out of the blue you should really talk to her first. Chances are, that there are other reasons behind it, instead of her simply wanting to have sex. For instance some kind of indirect peer-pressure in the form that some friends of her had sex and she now feels like she has to do so, too.
My advice: If you don't want to blow your chances of being with her you should first tell her that you would want to have sex with her and then bring up your concerns. Check whether the reason she has for wanting to have sex with you is something you are ok with.
Basically, keep it in her mind, that she is in your more-than-friend-zone, while doing the sensible thing of caring about her and her reasons.
You probably should not have sex with her if it was some sort of a hasty decision to ask you. Instead propose to go via an actual relationship aka wait until it happens on its own (which, given the right amount of liking each other can happen pretty fast, still keep in mind possible legal issues), while not forgetting to jokingly mention, that "There aren't many guys who would turn that offer down because they care about you." (Jokingly, because it lightens the mood, while still having a nice bit of underlying truth. Also clever remarks don't work if you are too serious with them.)
(Also, am I the only one who realizes, that there is more to gain here than just having sex once?)
Edit: (Welp, the relationship with a 14-year-old is awful could be a point. Still, there's the possibility that it won't be awful and you only know that once you have tried.)
it's really common for girls to do this to their gay friends as some kinda joke. they do that, watching movies together, going to the mall together, etc.