This is a story from a few days ago.
Have you ever tried to have a very polite conversation with someone but you come across very poorly or say something that is misunderstood creating tension or argument? I had one of these conversations the other day.
I met this girl online a couple months ago and we started dating recently. Like I assume many other TL members to be, I have some very poor social skills sometimes. We're nerds right? It makes sense. Plus, this is (or was? I don't know) my first girlfriend so maybe I'm expected to make mistakes?
Anyway, I thought it would be a cool idea to find a gamer girlfriend, you know? Someone that likes to play video games and stuff. It's like Netflix and Chill but you don't have to watch a shitty movie. You just play some awesome video game. Minecraft and Chill? Yes please. The only problem was she doesn't really play video games.
Well, I do. I can convince her to try them right?
I thought this was the perfect way to frame the conversation:
I start out saying it's important. I then say she's a great girlfriend so she doesn't get nervous or anything. I then talk about something important to me and want to share it with her (not force, she can say no). Next I relate to a hobby of hers that I don't enjoy but do appreciate. Finally, I reiterate it's importance and try to accommodate her busy schedule.
What could go wrong?
I told her this:
Jessica, we need to have an important talk. You're a really good girlfriend, but... I really enjoy playing video games and although it's maybe not something you enjoy doing, it would be great if I could share my hobby with you sometime. I don't like to wear make-up but I really appreciate that you put makeup on since it makes you look pretty. I am willing to consider ending this relationship if you don't take interest in my hobbies. When are you able to fit Mario Kart into your schedule?
She was very mad. I thought it out perfectly.
She's not talking to me right now. How can I explain I meant it nicely? Am I just dumb? LOL
Anyone wanna play Mario Kart? girls are weird.