I´m getting married this fall. To the love of my life. BAAM!
We are supposedly going to South Korea for our honeymoon.
Not only because I wanna show her the wonderful world of Starcraft 2 and of course, the game that defined my late childhood and my teenage years, Brood War.
But also for searching her roots in Seoul.
First of all this is not a thread for judging adoption or start a debate on adoption. Nor bashing peoples choices or cultures.
She holds no grudges at all and have lived a happy life. She don´t want to accuse anyone or accuse any administration nor country.
This is just a help me thread
I may be a little bit early, due to we are getting married in September and haven´t booked the trip yet, but I just want to see the reactions or if TeamLiquid even is a place to turn to in this complicated matter.
I see it as exiting - no expectations at all.
A little about us:
My fiancee came to Sweden when she was 2,5 years old. 30 +years ago. That´s kind of late for adoption and that has risen many questions for her.
She was found on big busstation when she was 2 years old and no one reported her missing.
She does not know her birth name or what her biological parents names are.
She went to live at an orphanage for 1-3 months, then was placed with a foster family before she was adopted by her parents in Sweden.
The orphanage named her Hee Young and her parents named her Lisette. She still has both names
She now works as an actress in Sweden and is internationally known for a series called "Real Humans", that actually was aired in South Korea.
Is a surreal thought thinking of the chance that a biological relative have seen her without knowing who she is!
Here is the show she is most known for
www.imdb.com
Here is her acting agency portfolio.
www.artistgruppen.se
Me myself work as an actor, thats how we met.
Here is the "best" picture of us.
We understand that finding her biological parents is almost completely impossible. And she is aware of the risk the potential mother may put herself at by admitting to have had a baby.
Her mother was perhaps unmarried 30 years ago and is happily married now.
She just wants to hang out with koreans, feel her heritage, get to know the culture, ask about translations so we can visit the orphanage or the busstation, learn about her heritage.
Possibly get some answers to some impossible questions.
Last time she was in South Korea, for example, people approach her and thought she have had an plastic surgery. Because they thought she had so round eyes and a more western eyeball. Was her biolagical father not South Korean?
She did a DNA test and it showed that she has much of her heritage from northern Kina south eastern Russia and Madagascar (?!?!!?) What does that even mean? Haha.
We have found 4th and 3rd cousins we perhaps would like to contact.
So what are your thoughts about advancing in this matter?
Is it even polite to search her roots?
Is it welcomed?
Would anyone like to hang out with us when we come and be our guide and maybe, maybe help her get some answers?
Does anyone know any organisation that can help us with this matter?
All thoughts are welcome but I stress - no judgement.
Thank you!
BTW Jaedong forever!