It starts with wanting that buxom beauty in our teens, wanting to be "popular" enough to win her heart...
To simply wanting people to like our facebook-posts/videos/pictures... There are crafters and fans, and, statistically speaking, there can only be 1 successful crafter/content-man, for about every 1,000 fans.
1. In regards to school/church/work popularity, I've learned (as your average gamer) that people move slowly. They won't necessarily compliment you/give you their number's right away.
My advice is to not get "a girl blog situation... " for the "pond's" cutie. Plenty of fish in the sea.
With people, I've learned (not mastered)... To breath, and listen to what people are saying when you are crafting what you want to say.
And, realize how you actually appear! Watch a video of yourself! Listen to your own voice! It's amazing how much we hallucinate things are, and how we truly appear, and are quick to say "nono" when undeniable video/picture evidence is placed before us. "Surely I can't carry myself that way...?"
Also, as my ex-korean gf said... Meet people just for study/work/devotion, you start of as "acquaintances." There is a shift to friendship. With rules.
So... once you're visiting their house, calling them, etc. Declare deeper feelings. Social rules.
About 1,000 rules of what is acceptable. Referred to by laymen as "commen sense." Maybe it's tough for you? It was hard for me, I'm not autistic, but I didn't get out enough. Socialites know such things naturally. Yes? No? Maybe?
Returning to popularity, I read a "girl blog" where a lad was so upset. That's just the thing, these "girl-blog-girls..." They're crafters, they have 1,000 fans. Lad probably should have found a girl who is a fan, his girl was probably a crafter herself...
You must be endeared to people. And rejection sucks.
Shit... This is getting a bit intense, but I felt the need to share my thoughts, as I always struggled to be liked, I suppose I was liked, but I wasn't the "in-group" people 20 years ago... In general.
So, now I sometimes stream. And I get nice people. I guess I could call them "fans."
It's weird having people love you, sure, I deal with assholes, it's true; but some dudes just don't want to be a streamer/writer/artist; they want to simply like you, and are very, very, nice. It's very awkward, at first, but these fans are actually the ones you need!
It's awkward to have a few fans, because we are used to stuffy folks who "rule" their little ponds, and think that their indifference means we are un-liked, or unpopular. But, these folks, ASMRDarling@youtube, for example, I mean, she has probably 1,000+ new messages every day...
So, perhaps someone giving you props might feel uncomfortable, but it's actually good!
As for any "girl-blog-lad..." "The-blog-girl" is like ASMRDarling, A STAR!
To her, you're just a blip on a screen to the lass... There's always tiers and hierarchies. "She's so higgghhhhh above me... She's so lovely..." It's a good 90's song...
Women... You need a supporter, not another "general" like you... imho! If you play a game where you are the "leader" the general, like SC.
But what's likable is more than just what will get you a chick. That's a whole can of worms many of my bros struggle with.
Actors have a skill that isn't really native to me, they simply have an "easy," "calming," aura. Their voices are mellow. Their words aren't abrupt or schismatic. They're popular. I try whispering, or talking softly, as my voice has a very piercing quality. It's funny, flash, in a military video, used a very high piercing voice to address his comrades, it all goes back to our game... SC. A war game! Sure "It's just a game." But it has relations to real wars, which are a terrible place. Hell.
Thus, there are tiers amidst peoples.
It's simply nature: Tiers, though maybe this idea makes you uncomfortable? Some want all to be equal, but imo, things are not equal in the sense that some dogs are just stronger than other dogs.
I appreciate anyone who supports me, I also like those above me in the tiers. I like those who are lower, also. Do I feel superior?
No, no, I'm grateful, I don't feed on such like bigger fish, ala "Optimistic" by Radiohead.
It's not misery, these people keep me standing! They prop me up, while I strive like Icarus.
Thanks, people who just are chill and like to be the music-listener, not the music-writer!
Thanks, regular nice John!
Thanks random nice Korean who watched my stream with 3 viewers!
If you really want to feel me, this song goes basically: "Does the stone on the top of the mountain feel more important than the stones that form the base?"
So, to those higher on thee totem pole: Cheers to Artosis, cheers to Tasteless, cheers to ASMRDarling, cheers to Pewdiepie, cheers to Taylor Swift... etc... Cheers to all crafters of things, Cheers to the big lads and lasses, cheers to a president or PM...
As SC players, we play a "sport" where you're the maestro, the controller, when I describe it to normal folk, I say you get to be a general...
So, we are all basically content-creators, as SC is a control game, not a relaxing RPG or chill-out Candycrush. What I'm getting at is I've learned quickly not to get cocky, because of the adrenaline rush of stimming your marines... A long time ago someone said "You're controlling all these little men, but in reality they're controlling you." SC addiction is a real thing. I've played nonstop. It made me an ass, at least a bit of one.
But that doesn't mean I shouldn't be confident. A wise old lady recently told me this.
The public sees things. Surely, you can't please everyone, but maybe, if you're sad, lonely, take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Reality is tough, but surely you're better than you feel you are in your darkest moods?
Returning to "girl-blog-lad," the majority of lads are single, but eventually 95% of humans eventually marry. It's a sociology fact. So It'll be OK, your princess is in another castle.
Just like a confident, well-built, athlete will be the most endearing, the smooth-talking politician will win votes, it's a necessary evil to sacrifice perhaps a few of our own cores to the shrine of what is practical and popular!
2.) So, I've been talking with my big sister about the realistic chances for the fantasy I'm almost done typing up from handwriting...
I trust her, because she's a big fantasy-reader, knows em' all, mostly, and she's a big fan-fiction writer. Fan-fiction isn't my cup of tea, but I know it helps your writing.
Just as posting on TL has helped my writing. Some of my posts get 15 replies, but usually they get none. Unless I plug my youtube videos, they get 1 or 2 views. Rejection will come upon crafters.
I read about marketing and what agents/publishers want...
...And it's not all good.
...For myself, because, my dream-world is high-fantasy, and the main character is 30...
1.a.) I've noticed many MANY fantasies focus on a 15-year-old who grows up amidst a grand adventure! Why do you folks think it is this way?
Maybe it's just natural story-telling. I suppose "great" literature, like the Oddysey, has an adult...
But, I think the reader just enjoy's feeling like the hero's elder, and I suppose teenagers are simply naturally interesting, despite being cocky and inexperienced. Still love em
I was saying how you must sacrifice originality to the shrine of popularity...
For example, I play zerg in Starcraft.
I like to do my own-original builds, almost metaphorical builds I dream up; rushes that kind of tell a "story" if that makes any sense...
Like, maybe this sounds silly, but I noticed at about 5 minutes, a lass kind of said something sneaky in a conversation. So my metaphor was a zergling runby vs protoss. Then there was a buildup, and two ideas being tossed around, i.e. my lings harrass his main, while I rally more lings to his front. Then at 7-8 minutes. BOOM! Big pincer on his cannon line, and end-game. And oddly, using my emotions to craft my strategies ended up being a very powerful "golden bullet" rush, until 1 gate harass openers became possible...
Alas, pro's don't care about originality in general, they do whatever is most successful, but, maybe you just don't like doing what wins. Perhaps you like to win with a "story?" Yes? No? Maybe?
2.)"(Book Agent) is looking to represent middle grade, young adult, new adult, and adult novels. For middle grade, he is actively seeking fantasy, science fiction, paranormal, adventure, and historical fiction. In young adult, he is seeking fantasy, science fiction, paranormal, adventure, historical fiction, contemporary, and dystopian. For new adult, he is seeking..."
What is actually wanted:
#1. Children's Fantasy... Harry Potter, etc. Lord, maybe I should have written something like this, but it's just not my cup of tea, never dug this genre. Maybe it could be fun to try? Need 130,000 words though, that takes time!
#2. Teen fiction/fantasy.... Twilight, etc. Again, I liked the movies, but the books don't interest me, but yes, this stuff is MUCH WANTED. Would Feist's "Magician." or "Eragon" or even Arya&Sansa fit in this category? I don't think so. It needs to be poppy and emotional, like teens. "Teen fiction/fantasy..."
#3. Paranormal, historical fiction, or less-"wizardly" fantasy like GAME OF THRONES. Adult stuff, but, they need strong women usually, sadly, I didn't include a strong 30-year-old woman in my novel, and I can't go back. But yes, women do really like fantasy, would they dig a harem manga? I do not know this. If so, I need that cigarette smoking 30-year-old to advise... So, I think women are big readers/audiences. Yet I am a man. I saw Janny Wurts' Kelewan Saga on a 40-year-old acquaintances shelf... Darn.
#3.1. They also like all sorts of futurist genre's I've never heard of, with names like punk-something or another, all sorts of niches.
#9? Something like Feist. (Surely you lads know the 90's game "Betrayl at Krondor?" Yet most of his stories focus on a 15-year-old, if only I had thought of what's popular before I outlined/wrote my story...
#?. My best efforts. My own story, it doesn't fit into these categories. That's the mirror, and reality, I probably won't get published or sales, but I have years, I'll write something new, or try a different project!
KlazartSC@youtube probably never got around to publishing his book, though perhaps there's a few here who voted for him on authonomy.com, for his novel... If any old-timers remember? Shame he chose Psychiatry not commentating, he was gifted.
Onto what is sought-after in the music business. I was a music major, and I thought these rules apply to what sells. Fortunately, music has more options for you, if you are trying to make some cash!
3.) Here's my ranking of what is wanted:
#1. 80% of radio.
a. Pop, Selena, Taylor, Charlie Puth, etc.
b. Country, a niche, but a big niche.
d. Pop+Hip-Hop. You know, the "rap solo." Or the "chorus-ey" rap song.
#2.15% of radio
a) Pop-rock: Franz Ferdinand, Paramore, The Killers... This genre is dying...
b) Teen-pop. This stuff doesn't get much radio play, but every few years, there's a Miranda Cosgrove, Selena Gomez (her first album), these teenagers who act and have artists help them craft an album. Not often on the radio, really, but little girls DEVOUR these records. Big cash cow.
#3. Ignoring, oldies and classical, which have already been written, 5% of new music is:
a. Alternative. I mean Radiohead, I suppose Coldplay, this genre seems to be at it's end. Perhaps.
b. Indie. This is a big scene. BIG scene. Hippy sounding, weird sounding, but loose. Unknown future.
#4 The remains...
a) Metal, all the different kinds.
b) EDM. Trance, chill-out, techno. This kind of mixes in with "Pop" though... But that's it.
#5 Classical, or instrumental, "modern-classical."
Would be on the bottom of the list. Not popular currently, though I love it. I suppose some people like film-soundtracks, but I don't think they sell too well...
4) This is addressed to the youngins', but I don't like who I was 12 years ago, I imitated a friend who was not a good person. I saw a video of myself 12 years ago. He was not a neat lad. He was a jerk.
I don't hang out with my old college-buddies for the most part, anymore.
After much reflection, I've realized they weren't good people. They were users. They were manipulative. They weren't loyal. I just liked "powerful" people, "popular people" and didn't care about their morals.
But, loyalty is everything. Morality is everything. Stoic philosophy. Morals. Reasons for morals...
I didn't yield to steal my friend's girl, when I had a very easy chance... but these 90% of the fellows would happily have done such a thing. Fuck em!
Even more with ex-girlfriends. I don't believe in messing with your friends' ex's... But literally all of em were on her, because they lacked options and she happens to be around. Don't do this to your friends, lad, it hurts your heart to see your ex with your "close" friend. My ex was sleeping in my "friend's" bed, and my other friend was like... "Jamie... this should not be happening... This is not cool." But I was like them, a jerk, and just smoked pot and dazed off, not realizing these weren't my friends!
It's a fine line. They were popular, I guess you could say, but I want the right kind of friends/supporters!
What they taught me, their mannerisms, theirs philosophies, even their likes/dislikes...
Were "Fruit of the Poisonous Tree." Fruit of the Poisonous Tree is used in the legal system. If evidence was gathered improperly, it is inadmissible. It is a concept that has a little merit in the courts, but to me...
...But, it's incredibly applicable to such "bad friends." All their likes, music, art, hobbies, are all fruit of the poison tree to me. Really just a guy or two from my past, but, yeah, it's strange how you realize that people never really liked you in the first place. Wish I had found a different crowd!
I don't like the music they dug, I don't espouse their beliefs.
It's all poisonous fruit. Yes, it's a generalization, but if I could give any advice that's unique, it would be to avoid "poisonous fruit." This is probably the most out-there thought you'll ever read, but I find it to be SO true. Not their music, not their habits, nothing
5.) Older folks
I enjoy the company of older folks as friends. They take your calls, they are real, they don't play as many games.
Also older women, lately, I spend much more time with women. They're kind of weird, but also very kind, sometimes, yet different than the men I used to have for friends.
6.) Authority, Cops and Dogs
In conclusion, it's not popularity one desires, it's control. Control of living in comfort with friends.
Things get serious, policemen are actually really smart at control. I've heard they dig SC.
I saw some police arrest a man the other day. They didn't say "sir." The walked close to him, and said "Stand up. We're taking you to jail." They repeated until I left the scene, but I'm sure they got the perp cuffed eventually. Orders.
I'm training a dog to be nicer to my cats. I find when a dog is being bad, you kind of have to be like the policeman. Not a beating, but firm, the walk up, then the command. And if the dog doesn't listen, you give him a break and try again.
With people it's the same, just with socializing we add politeness, but perhaps you're always the general? Maybe we can't escape the 1,000's of hours of SC practice?
In addition, I've noticed many large dogs are very smart. They go crazy when people are arguing. They have very good ears. And I can almost talk to the hound! Sure, it sounds crazy, but he knows the following words:
4. Lay Down.
5. (Owner's name)
6. Wanna go outside?
8. Babycat #1's name
9. Baby-cat #2's name
So I started this article in a hyper mood, now I'm in a chill mood. Self-help doesn't work, but my only thing you should remember is this. Take a big dog outside, and talk to him, ask him to show you around, mine wants to show me all sorts of things in my yard.
Thx for reading.
Any thoughts on SC and controlling personalities? It's a problem. A big problem.