I can't figure out what the actual definition is, or how one would go about doing so. It really confounds me... People discuss it so much, yet I have no idea what it really means.
Basically; if you ask someone out on a date, you either have the HotS (see what I did there?) for them, or have something you want to thank them for / anything else. The first one is the most common.
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meguca United States. June 11 2012 02:47. Posts 77
Do you meet this someone in person often? If so, try and ask them when you meet them.
If you don't, then you have some options. If you want to decide the date of the date (I know, it sounds stupid) with them, then you can call them basically whenever (well, preferably not too early or late), but if you want to have the date on the same day, then call them so that they have a good amount of time to prepare. I don't know whether you want to ask a woman or man out on a date, but women often use a ton of time to prepare for dates, so you shouldn't call them 17:45 and ask if they want to meet at a restaurant at 18 sharp.
Basically, decide how you want to do, and devise a strategy for the date from there on.
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meguca United States. June 11 2012 03:20. Posts 77
Basically, you agree to do something with someone... and that's a date.
Edit: If you're like actually interested in this person, phone can be WAY more awkward than in person (by phone i mean phone call, not texting or something). Unless you're naturally a phone person or she/he is, phone conversations can feel really weird really fast. Maybe you're a natural, but as someone posting who doesn't know what a date is, and doesn't know how to approach it.. I'm a bit worried.
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Synwave United States. June 11 2012 03:25. Posts 2738
Its a social engagement to do something together usually with the implied interest of seeing if there is romantic compatibility or furthering that compatibility if you two are already dating.
You can certainly call and ask about a date if your on pretty familiar level with the person. If not I suggest calling to just talk and see how it goes. If its a fun conversation then towards the end, shoot that date request in there!
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meguca United States. June 11 2012 03:27. Posts 77
Today is the day right after the senior prom (I didn't go), and she went with someone else.. but she told me earlier that she is basically actively trying to friendzone the guy she went with. Should I still wait 1-2 days before I ask her out to dinner or something?
Also, the guy she's going with told me a couple weeks ago that they're only going together because he 'can't back out' of it now and that she didn't want to go with him and would rather have gone with somebody else (I was quoted as one of the alternatives that she suggested) if she could have.
i'm just an asian guy with no experience in anything except math/piano
On June 11 2012 03:27 meguca wrote: Ok, this is the part I'm not sure about:
Today is the day right after the senior prom (I didn't go), and she went with someone else.. but she told me earlier that she is basically actively trying to friendzone the guy she went with. Should I still wait 1-2 days before I ask her out to dinner or something?
Hmm... tough one. I usually don't deal with these kind of scenarios. I guess you could, as Synwave said, call and just talk for a while. Maybe ask how the prom was? If the conversation seems like it's going well (hard to describe, but you will probably notice) then just ask her about the date near the end.
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sam!zdat United States. June 11 2012 03:32. Posts 4170
Just ask her to spend some time together, at a coffee shop or whatever. It's unlikely that she'll be instantly free anyways, so just say "hey are you free on Saturday, we could have some coffee in town" or whatever.
slytown United States. June 11 2012 04:14. Posts 1189
On June 11 2012 03:32 sam!zdat wrote: My regrets from high school all involve having too little balls... much better to err on the side of making a fool of yourself and going for it.
Yeap. Just don't let her friendzone you too
theonemephisto United States. June 11 2012 04:51. Posts 404
Next time you see her, just ask if she wants to go to a movie or get dinner or something. Movies are less "date-ey", while dinner is a bit more of a commitment. Coffee is also nice and informal. Make sure you actually set up a place and time. And go enjoy. If you both enjoy it, suggest doing something again sometime, and maybe call her later.
meguca United States. June 11 2012 05:12. Posts 77
On June 11 2012 03:32 sam!zdat wrote: My regrets from high school all involve having too little balls... much better to err on the side of making a fool of yourself and going for it.
Yeah that's true - the same for my regrets as well. I suppose I shouldn't be too cautious/analytical about everything..
s.Q.uelched Netherlands. June 11 2012 05:56. Posts 818
On June 11 2012 03:27 meguca wrote: Ok, this is the part I'm not sure about:
Today is the day right after the senior prom (I didn't go), and she went with someone else.. but she told me earlier that she is basically actively trying to friendzone the guy she went with. Should I still wait 1-2 days before I ask her out to dinner or something?
Also, the guy she's going with told me a couple weeks ago that they're only going together because he 'can't back out' of it now and that she didn't want to go with him and would rather have gone with somebody else (I was quoted as one of the alternatives that she suggested) if she could have.
i'm just an asian guy with no experience in anything except math/piano
wat do? halp
not 1-2days later, NAO throwing you in the list of potential prom dates was either a pity gesture, or more likely her screaming ASK ME OUT
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Synwave United States. June 11 2012 06:07. Posts 2738
On June 11 2012 03:27 meguca wrote: Ok, this is the part I'm not sure about:
Today is the day right after the senior prom (I didn't go), and she went with someone else.. but she told me earlier that she is basically actively trying to friendzone the guy she went with. Should I still wait 1-2 days before I ask her out to dinner or something?
Also, the guy she's going with told me a couple weeks ago that they're only going together because he 'can't back out' of it now and that she didn't want to go with him and would rather have gone with somebody else (I was quoted as one of the alternatives that she suggested) if she could have.
i'm just an asian guy with no experience in anything except math/piano
wat do? halp
not 1-2days later, NAO throwing you in the list of potential prom dates was either a pity gesture, or more likely her screaming ASK ME OUT
I agree with rotinegg on this having read this latest update. Get in there (on the phone if you must) and get a date going duder. You will regret not asking more than asking and possibly it not working out.
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meguca United States. June 11 2012 06:21. Posts 77
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