Also, Snet, your observation is kind of solid... classrooms often aren't great places for socializing. It can happen, and I've dated women from class, but a few things kind of suck about it: many people aren't happy about being in class, they just do it cuz they need to. You will tend to be slightly self conscious in a class setting, cause other people tend to not talk and they can hear you chatting someone up (don't let that stop you, tho... just have friendly, humorous talks with girls.) In my experience, a lot of college girls are really closed down to interaction. I used to think it was just me, but now I don't think so. I just don't think the classroom is a social place, much of the time. By all means try, but go easy on yourself if you aren't getting results.
Just be social everywhere you go, and if you have good interactions, invite the girl to coffee (or something along those lines.)
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QuanticHawk United States. December 05 2007 02:26. Posts 21238
On December 05 2007 01:47 omgbnetsux wrote: College is the perfect time to "reinvent" yourself as well, so don't mind-fuck yourself in to thinking you're in a hopeless situation (not that you are - you seem proactive, which is a good thing).
And yes, its way easier for girls to be comment whores on MySpace.
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nA.Inky United States. December 05 2007 02:37. Posts 794
Haha, yeah hawk. Myspace in the "I have a million friends" sense, is definitely a woman's thing, I feel.
Oh, as I am into sociology and psychology and whatnot, I thought I'd tell you all this: the average American has only 2 close confidants. The majority of a typical person's phone calls take place with just 4 other people.
America is huge on image. People want to feel popular and connected, but the fact is, most people are not as plugged in as the myspace page would make you think. Besides, how could anyone REALLY have 300 friends? I have maybe 5 or 6 friends and I'm struggling to keep up with them.
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On December 05 2007 02:59 Hawk wrote: lol i wouldnt even think of telling girls about teamliquid. most dont think i play video games much outside of madden.
This is the correct approach. Videogames are to women as garlic is to vampires. Bring up the games AFTER you snag the woman.
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exalted United States. December 05 2007 03:15. Posts 3611
Snet, this is so hilarious. I didn't know that you were so insecure and unconfident : ). PM me, we can chat on MSN or AIM. I went through a phase like yours maybe 2-3 years ago and it's just funny how you're going through it now. I always thought of you as a pretty funny dude, I sincerely wish you luck with this endeavor.
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Snet United States. December 05 2007 04:08. Posts 3557
Thanks for all the advice on the girl topic, but can you guys help me figure out some hobbies that will help me socially too? I mean, my hobbies right now are just video games which are not doing me any favors, and honestly aren't too fun for me these days. I just play them because IDK what else there is to do.
Here are things I am thinking about: 1) Learning the guitar. I have one from a few years ago, I used to take lessons for school but I stopped. Right now I have 0 skill in it, like its brand new to me so the idea of learning seems impossible. I would need help on where to start.
2) Working out can be a hobby I guess
3) I need something outside the house, something I can do everyday. This is what I really need your help on. I know there are sports, but thats really unlikely to be honest, I don't see myself ever going to the gym or something and trying to play basketball with people there. Any ideas of other things?
nA.Inky United States. December 05 2007 04:55. Posts 794
Snet, I began bicycling for my transportation about 5 months ago. It's been one of my best decisions ever. If you get a decent bike (300 to 600, new, for a nice ride with accessories/helmet), you could have a great time. This would get you out but keep you in a position where you can stop and talk to people if you wanted to (I never really do, though.) Bicycling is environmentally friendly transportation, AND it is excellent exercise (but you won't think of it as exercise, cause it's so damn fun.)
Beyond that, I say go for the guitar. If it appeals to you, definitely try it. But the hobby thing is something you have to think about a lot for yourself, because only you know what you like, or what seems interesting. It may be a situation where you have to try things and figure out what works for you.
In my life, cooking has become something of a hobby. It's a skill you can use with the babes.
You might try going out to libraries or bookstores (on your bicycle!), where you can hang out and enjoy reading books, and also perhaps strike up a conversation with someone (I never really do this, but it could work.) Going out with friends is a good idea, if you have friends to go out with. (I understand if you don't - I didn't either at your age.)
Take classes on art, yoga, gardening, etc. (Great way to meet women, too.)
I and many others are happy to help you with guitar.
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BuGzlToOnl United States. December 05 2007 05:25. Posts 5916
I read through most of the things people advised and don't have much to add, but community college is easy because its usually only 2 years, that means half the kids in there are new and looking to make friends. Just relax, best place to make new friends is in the lobby or library. If you need a pick up line talk about school work, assignments, projects, teachers, grades, ect. Then move slowly towards other things ask her questions where she's from, try to think of funny stories, stuff like that. Once you grow comfortable with her, let it be at friends for a while, then once you think the time is right pop the question if you want. High school didn't mean anything for me, but college is such as laid back place people are overall.
GL though, remember don't be afraid if you crash and burn don't worry about it just take it as a learning experience.
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AiurZ United States. December 05 2007 06:40. Posts 343
you could benefit a lot from the pua stuff that smurg and kenningit have posted about if you use it to supplement a drastic life change, so id suggest doing some research into that.
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dcttr66 United States. December 05 2007 09:27. Posts 472
hmm, is this double posted? whatever. yeah those sound like good ideas, but i would say don't bother too much worrying about what your clothes look like...I mean, you probably don't have to spend a lot of money. as long as they look good it. but i will say that women probably like it if you're warm, so wearing something that will keep you warm would be good. maybe a few big coats or some extra layers of clothing.
Titusmaster6 United States. December 05 2007 10:25. Posts 3354
HO-LY-SHIT. You're post describes my current life exactly. Except I had a different reason for getting out of school. I don't really have much to offer in advice, but maybe I can get something out of this :D
Snet United States. December 05 2007 10:40. Posts 3557
that's my advice.. i was in your exact same shoes when i started highschool, and was like that up until junior year (minus the expulsion ordeal). then i started getting more into music, especially the underground/local scene. then i tried drugs.
then i got laid.
i forgot to add.. then i stopped using drugs.
and now i'm in college, and have great grades, and a life.
also, going to college isn't going to magically make you cool or get you girls.. it will just introduce you to a lot more opportunities. you still have to make the effort, but chances to expend that effort will be all around.
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