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On September 03 2010 00:38 edzwoo wrote: Wait what, half this site has no desire to get married sometime in the future? For real?
Most guys just want sex, and not the responsibilities of marriage or raising a kid. If you read through the thread you'll notice a lot of people saying they don't want to get married, but do want to live together w/ someone.
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i couldn't care less about the legal system. if i love her , i'd risk much more than that.
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On September 09 2010 05:21 Ebolamonkey3 wrote:Show nested quote +On September 03 2010 00:38 edzwoo wrote: Wait what, half this site has no desire to get married sometime in the future? For real? Most guys just want sex, and not the responsibilities of marriage or raising a kid. If you read through the thread you'll notice a lot of people saying they don't want to get married, but do want to live together w/ someone.
Ok, I've seen this opinion before and thought it was just some one person that thought this but after seeing all the replies of this nature I'm pretty confused.
Why do people equate the institution of marriage with wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone? My parents were never married. They still live together and love eachother just like always. Yet, I don't think they're ever going to marry.
Myself, I want to meet someone, fall in love, and spend the rest of my life with that person. I'm probably not going to have kids, but that's for another day to discuss and I won't bore you with that now. At the same time, I do *not* want to get married. Nor do I see the contradiction here. The institution of marriage is in my view not something that we need to fight that hard to retain. I won't go into detail since that'll just make people skip over this post as a tldr. If you're interested I can write up my reasons for thinking so later.
My point? Signing legal agreement with your other half does not mean you love them more, and saying people that don't want to get married are solely interested in sex is just untrue.
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I'm only eighteen but I already know the woman that I want to marry. If it doesn't work with her, then I don't want anyone else. Marriage doesn't seem all that attractive to me.
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I'm only 15, but I'm already pretty set that I don't wanna get married. Too easy to get screwed over AND I'm not really into that kinda stuff.
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On September 09 2010 08:27 Ferrose wrote: I'm only eighteen but I already know the woman that I want to marry. If it doesn't work with her, then I don't want anyone else. Marriage doesn't seem all that attractive to me.
I used to think like that when I am younger, life just doesnt work out some tims.
Life plays funny tricks on people, as you grow up and get forcefully seperated, via higher education/work/etc, you meet different people - the time you two spend together decreases and the idea becomes more and more foggy.
I am not too sure if I will get married: I believe marriage is like... some sort of a vow, commitment, etc. When the time comes where I should get married I think I will know about it. For now I still enjoy the freedom to do whatever I want and bear no responsibility over another person.
The legal issues troubles me. For ages woman have been asking for fair treatment as man yet in a divorce woman always seem to get the better end of the deal.
In this age, women cheat on their partner as much as men. I have lost faith in a lot of time long time ago.
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On September 09 2010 08:44 Hikari wrote:Show nested quote +On September 09 2010 08:27 Ferrose wrote: I'm only eighteen but I already know the woman that I want to marry. If it doesn't work with her, then I don't want anyone else. Marriage doesn't seem all that attractive to me. I used to think like that when I am younger, life just doesnt work out some tims. Life plays funny tricks on people, as you grow up and get forcefully seperated, via higher education/work/etc, you meet different people - the time you two spend together decreases and the idea becomes more and more foggy. I am not too sure if I will get married: I believe marriage is like... some sort of a vow, commitment, etc. When the time comes where I should get married I think I will know about it. For now I still enjoy the freedom to do whatever I want and bear no responsibility over another person. The legal issues troubles me. For ages woman have been asking for fair treatment as man yet in a divorce woman always seem to get the better end of the deal. In this age, women cheat on their partner as much as men. I have lost faith in a lot of time long time ago.
Well, I've never actually met the girl I love. I know her on the internet. >.>
But, I don't want to sound like an asshole, but usually other people just bother me. Like when I'm playing a video game and someone in my family starts talking to me, I usually just have short, irritated responses, or I just snap at them because they break my concentration. I'm ashamed of myself when I do it, but I have a hard time controlling myself. And I think that being married and having kids would just get in my way.
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On September 09 2010 08:49 Ferrose wrote:Show nested quote +On September 09 2010 08:44 Hikari wrote:On September 09 2010 08:27 Ferrose wrote: I'm only eighteen but I already know the woman that I want to marry. If it doesn't work with her, then I don't want anyone else. Marriage doesn't seem all that attractive to me. I used to think like that when I am younger, life just doesnt work out some tims. Life plays funny tricks on people, as you grow up and get forcefully seperated, via higher education/work/etc, you meet different people - the time you two spend together decreases and the idea becomes more and more foggy. I am not too sure if I will get married: I believe marriage is like... some sort of a vow, commitment, etc. When the time comes where I should get married I think I will know about it. For now I still enjoy the freedom to do whatever I want and bear no responsibility over another person. The legal issues troubles me. For ages woman have been asking for fair treatment as man yet in a divorce woman always seem to get the better end of the deal. In this age, women cheat on their partner as much as men. I have lost faith in a lot of time long time ago. Well, I've never actually met the girl I love. I know her on the internet. >.>
I know that while it may seem to you that you'll never love anyone else I can tell you that I've been in a situation very much like yours and I remember saying the same thing - thinking she would be the only person I'd ever love, and the only person that would ever love me. After it ended, though, that turned out to be wrong - in fact, it turned out to be wrong in a no more than a couple of months time.
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On September 09 2010 15:09 Cantankerous wrote:Show nested quote +On September 09 2010 08:49 Ferrose wrote:On September 09 2010 08:44 Hikari wrote:On September 09 2010 08:27 Ferrose wrote: I'm only eighteen but I already know the woman that I want to marry. If it doesn't work with her, then I don't want anyone else. Marriage doesn't seem all that attractive to me. I used to think like that when I am younger, life just doesnt work out some tims. Life plays funny tricks on people, as you grow up and get forcefully seperated, via higher education/work/etc, you meet different people - the time you two spend together decreases and the idea becomes more and more foggy. I am not too sure if I will get married: I believe marriage is like... some sort of a vow, commitment, etc. When the time comes where I should get married I think I will know about it. For now I still enjoy the freedom to do whatever I want and bear no responsibility over another person. The legal issues troubles me. For ages woman have been asking for fair treatment as man yet in a divorce woman always seem to get the better end of the deal. In this age, women cheat on their partner as much as men. I have lost faith in a lot of time long time ago. Well, I've never actually met the girl I love. I know her on the internet. >.> I know that while it may seem to you that you'll never love anyone else I can tell you that I've been in a situation very much like yours and I remember saying the same thing - thinking she would be the only person I'd ever love, and the only person that would ever love me. After it ended, though, that turned out to be wrong - in fact, it turned out to be wrong in a no more than a couple of months time.
It's not really that I'll never love again, as much as it is that I just don't care about companionship.
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On September 08 2010 16:52 Manifesto7 wrote:I wonder how many of the righteous anti-marriage people in this thread would exist without the institution they now decry Poll: Be Honest! Were your parents married when you were conceived?Yes (46) 78% No (13) 22% 59 total votes Your vote: Be Honest! Were your parents married when you were conceived? (Vote): Yes (Vote): No
Yes, because sex and conception can't happen without legal binding contracts. Marriage is supposed to be about both partners. As it stands it is not in a mans best interest to consider signing on when divorce is favorable for women. And just as an aside, a legal contract does not determine or gauge how much you love someone, you can argue this point back and forth as much as you want but love is not quantifiable.
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On September 08 2010 16:52 Manifesto7 wrote:I wonder how many of the righteous anti-marriage people in this thread would exist without the institution they now decry Poll: Be Honest! Were your parents married when you were conceived?Yes (46) 78% No (13) 22% 59 total votes Your vote: Be Honest! Were your parents married when you were conceived? (Vote): Yes (Vote): No
Wow talk about response bias. Or is this really representative of TL?
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Ehh...Isn't it also because guys go to marriage too quickly without knowing whether their girlfriend is a complete bitch? Just a theory. :3
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On September 02 2010 15:59 dybydx wrote: the domestic supply of women
that sounds so wrong to me for some reason
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Combined with my personal experience and how I've seen the legal system work (when considering divorce), I'd definitely spend a few years with someone before I'd even consider marriage. Even then, whether I be rich or poor, I wouldn't get married without signing a fair prenuptial agreement.
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I plan on getting married, but prolly not have kids for a while.
But then, things can change, and plans don't always work out as planned.
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My girlfriend of four years and I realized the bullshit that is the concept of marriage in this country, and although we're in a happy and committed relationship we have absolutely no plans to get married at any point in even the relatively near future.
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I've been in enough bad relationships to be able to step back and look at a relationship and tell if it is good or bad. Ultimately, I am just too young (22). I see so many people my age marrying someone after a few months and then fucking everything up. Marraige seems more like a way to prove to your other her worth to you, not something that is in and of itself particularly special.
I could care less about marraige, but I know many girls who want to get married.
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interesting post. honestly though, u just gotta trust, know, and really love the woman to know shes not gonna fuck you over with some shady shit
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