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im i probably have around 5-6, in a 2:1 male/female ratio.
I'm not really sure of who many REAL friends i have, but i have a handful of full-trusting friends who im sure wont let me down. 3 of them, i met them on primary school. Even tho there was a period where we barely seen each other, we still invite ourselves to go party, go drink a beer etc. The contact between us is not forced even tho our lives have gone different ways.
Another of my friends i've met was at highschool, formerly he and i disliked eachother, but with time we had mutual interest and eventually become really good friends, i think he is the guy i trust must things in my life maybe.
One of my friends i met her while she was girlfriend of one of my friends, she seemed pretty cool and we started talking, we could be talking for many time. I saw her as a friend and only that obviously because of my friend :p. But she's still the kind of friend you could text message or phone at 3 am to talk about anything.
Right now, im in college and i have "pontential" real friends, but i have experienced that when you dont have the same interests (like going to same school) contact begins to lose and eventually they fade out. Yeah im still a bit nostalgic about my Highschool generation :p
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One, perhaps none? Noone that is reeeeeeeeeeeeeally I can trust or anything.
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exactly two
And they're lifelong friends from when I was in kindergarden, so yeah...
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England2183 Posts
0 nowadays, the only real friends i ever had i haven't seen in years
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where's the option for ZERO
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0, taking into account your standards.
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Australia3818 Posts
On October 05 2006 12:43 IIICodeIIIIIII wrote: where's the option for ZERO Hot_Bid already said where.
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On October 05 2006 11:20 Teroru wrote:
I personally doubt anyone on this forum has experienced 'true' love. But then again, i would never have the audacity to call someone mistaken if they claimed they have indeed experienced true love.
Rethink your doubts !
LOL jk, Stimey is the closest thing to love for me.
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this is about the place where rpf would post and then the next 2 pages would be people making fun of him
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Australia3818 Posts
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My definition of a "REAL" friends is really strict. A near friend is someone I discuss my own personal problems with, someone I know I can TRUST and won't expose me for random bullshitting just cuz I told him som personal stuff, heck I'd even take a bullet for them and they would do the same for me. I'd say I have at max 3 or 4 of those. Then there's friends who I love to hang out with in school, at parties etc... but I'd never have any "deep" conversations with them or trust them with something really personal. Either cuz they are just too goofy (unable to talk about personal and important stuff, I'm kind of one of those guys until you really get to know me well... and then I mean WELL) or because even though they are nice and cool as hell, I know that they'll probably go something like "lol rofl everyone listen up what I just heard lololololol" as soon as things start to get too serious.
It all comes down to how "open" you are about personal feelings I guess, and I'm pretty closed hence the small amount of "close" friends ;o Friends are mostly about drinking, watching a movie, someone to hang out and talk random bullshit with, play games with (starcrat? ;O), do sports with... etc.. But when it comes down to the real deal, you are in need of your real friends.
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4.
Knew 3 of them since i was 6 years old, the 4th one i met her just 5-6 years ago.
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On October 05 2006 11:20 Teroru wrote: You guys really trivialized what Chill has experienced. You attempt to explain and make less of his experiences when the truth is you do not understand his experiences - you only understand your own and try to relate them.
It's just a question of perspective. You know how people with good families know that they will always be close with their parents/siblings. You don't need to see them every week, but they talk, visit, and know that they represent something very important in each others lives. At the same time, they are the people you treat the worst at times. You yell at them, you lie to them, you fight with them - all because you are comfortable enough in the notion that what you have isn't going to be broken and you are free to be yourself. I know that if I didn't speak to my folks in the next 20 years and called up one day asking for help, they'd give it to me. To a lot of us, this is how strict we are in defining our true and real friends. They are rare, important, and don't deserve to be lumped in with 'good aquainances'.
But the thing about good family is that you know its secure because you really know each other. Sure, my brother can be a real cunt sometimes and can be meaner to me than anyone else I know - but I also know him better than that. I've known him my whole life. I know what kind of person he is. This is how it is with true friends too.
And that's the whole point. IT TAKES TIME. You can't know someone that well in the matter of a few years. My 'real' friends I speak of have all been a part of my life for over 10 years, some over 20 years. And the friendships have seen the worst of times, and they've seen the best of times. I love those guys, but we've hated each other as well. This is why people are sceptical about having 10+ 'real' friends. There simply isn't enough time in one's life to experience everything necessary to gain those types of relationships with soooo many people. Some of us are so strict on the criteria that we would see it as humanly impossible.
Like Hot_Bid said, it all just depends on one's own personal definition.
On October 05 2006 11:20 Teroru wrote: anyone who thinks that 50 years of not talking to someone won't change your relationship with them is a fool.
Admittedly, i have a few close friends that i can't imagine anything being different in 50 years. But in 50 years alot can happen. They can go insane. They can start believing in war. They can become a cocaine addict. They can become a murderer.
This relates to what I said above. I know my good friends like I know my family. A lot can happen, a lot *has* happened, and probably will happen, but it won't change who they are to me and it won't make me think differently of them. I know them too well for them to become strangers to me, no matter how much they change. I don't know how else to explain it =[.
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Osaka26952 Posts
I have four I think.
In high school I would have said a couple more, as there was a group of us who were very close, but in the ten years folowing, we have all gone our seperate ways and are definately not close anymore.
I have one friend from my childhood with whom I will be friends with for my lifetime. The second person is a friend and somewhat of a mentor that I met in university. Again, age and distance doesn't matter, and he will be a lifelong friend. Lastly, after I came to Japan, I started working with an American who has been here for years. Although pickings for friends around here is slim, he and are I so much alike it is scary. He also fills somewhat of a mentor role, but I forsee us working and enjoying ourselves deep into the future.
It is kind of interesting that I have one really significant friend from each stage of my life thus far. Of course, my fourth and best friend would be my wife. If you cant say that about your partner, dont get married.
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about 6 (not including gf 'cause Ima marry her = blood <3) awesome friends that I'm 100% sure to trust & they wont fuk me ova if my life is on their hands & vice versa of course
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real friends 5 more or less
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if cowboy bebop doesn't have any real friends (except for 1 but she died and she's not really a real friend anyways so she doesn't count), then i don't need real friends either. friends are for pwning and social fencing like malnourished dogs scratching for food on the alley floor ^_______^.
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real friends........I think 7 or 8
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