[D] Would you let your partner have gay sex? - Page 21

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On March 21 2012 04:28 XenOsky- wrote:
Only if I would be allowed to participate...

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On March 21 2012 04:01 sirkyan wrote:



Yo. I just wanted to comment on this quickly:

I don't think it's fair to say "If you can't handle what your partner wants then you are the problem and you shouldn't be in that relationship."

This goes both ways. If she (since I'm a guy) can't respect what I want, her not to do something, then she shouldn't be in it either.

So, to make your comment more general: if two people aren't compatible when it comes to things they are not willing to compromise, _they_ are the problem and should not be in a relationship.


Peace!

Edit: Just to make it perfectly clear, I am OK with anything two people want to do to and with themselves as long as it affects no one that doesn't want it. ANYTHING.

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On March 21 2012 06:12 EienShinwa wrote:
I think if you find it hot and appealing for her to make out with a girl, you should be prepared and fully willing to do the same with a dude. Otherwise you're one selfish pathetic son of a bitch.

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On March 21 2012 04:21 lorkac wrote:This is not the first thread where I have had to defend the rights of women.

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On March 21 2012 06:56 Zahir wrote:


That's the whole point, you aren't defending anyone's rights, at least not in this thread. If a woman wants a relationship with a man who'll be okay with her having sex with other women, but not other men, that is her choice. It's her right to decide that for herself. There is no coercion involved in that scenario, and hence, no violation of anyone's rights. You might say that the guy's preferences show a misogynistic tendency, but let's not confuse that with violating a woman's rights.

To say "I'll leave if I find you banging other dudes, but you can bang other chicks" is not violating anyone's rights. It is exercising your own right to make decisions, based on how others act.

I know you have a lot of negative stuff to say about how society treats women. And you're not wrong, at least about a certain subset of society (by no means the majority). But you should try not to make the problem worse by depriving people, including women, the right to make choices about their relationships.

edit: rephrased.

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On March 21 2012 10:57 Khrey wrote:
A true partner wouldn't want that. If they did, then they don't care about your relationship.

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On March 21 2012 11:00 Djzapz wrote:
You're digging too deep IMO lorkac. If the situation actually happened to me, of course it would be more complex - I'd wonder why she's interested in that and all kinds of stuff. But here I'm getting asked a simple question which I won't over-analyse. I'm fine with it.

Of course you can go in depth and speculate about why and everything, you can talk about the morality of it, you can gather statistics in 170 countries, you can always think about it and go further and further... Fact is, that's not what we're talking about - this is a small thread about a silly question with no real application for a vast majority of us. Let's not overcomplicate it - the shallow responses are normal.


I'm getting so tired of that ignorant reaction. =_=
Again, not all relationships are monogamous. Polygamous relationships can be just as real.

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On March 21 2012 04:29 Mataza wrote:
the general tendency of men to prefer watching(a 'hunter' thing, as opposed to 'gatherer' from the ancient times).

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On March 21 2012 11:10 lorkac wrote:

It's not really that deep.

When your significant other wants to have sex with someone--the conversation should be about her and not about you.

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On March 21 2012 11:15 Scarecrow wrote:

-.- or maybe men just like watching multiple sets of breasts, no need to bring retarded pseudo-science into it

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On March 21 2012 11:29 Djzapz wrote:

No goober, it's about both, but that's irrelevant and I'll tell you why. First though, I'll tell you why this situation is about both. Provided we're starting from your regular, cookie-cutter western monogamous relationship in which there's an unwritten "monogamy" contract, the sexual activity of both parties is limited to those two people. Both people agree not to have sex with other people, but expect their partner not to have sex with other partners either. So if the girl decides to ask if she can break the monogamous relationship's terms, she has to ask. I have a say in this.

Here's why this doesn't matter though: "Would you let your partner have gay sex?" -OP

I'm answering the question, you're running around it.

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The reason you think it's okay for her to have sex with women but feel threatened that she has sex with men is because you see men as people who are real and women as just an object to have sex with. Of course it makes sense to you that your girlfriend would be curious--everyone "should" want to have sex with women, that's their only role in society when you boil it down. But when another man has sex with your woman, suddenly its another human being touching and grabbing and penetrating your women, your object, your possession.

It's not competition--otherwise you'd be competitive with women to.

Nor is it just "jealousy" because you *could* and *should* be just as jealous when a woman tries to take your girl away from you. But since you don't really see women as people, why would your girlfriend ever run off with a vagina? Obviously you think a penis is good enough to satisfy your girlfriend far more than a vagina--why else would you feel uncomfortable when she has sex with another man's penis? Because you think that the male is superior.

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On March 21 2012 04:21 lorkac wrote:


This is not the first thread where I have had to defend the rights of women. It will also not be the last. Im not saying that TL is evil and supports right wing ideals--I'm simply saying that TL is a lot less liberal than it claims to be. Don't confuse "leaning conservative" with "supportive of right wing policy."

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