Just as this blog implies, okay okay it's not actually about me.. I'm just going to ask some of the hot dudes in Teamliquid.net how does it feel that instead of you guys picking up on girls the rules are reversed?
Because I know for a fact I'm not a good looking dude and a bad looking one as well. I'm more of the average joe guy who's in between both worlds. Yeah, maybe a bit of tweaking (adding muscles, a few facial care here) would help in making me turn to an 8/10 for the girls instead of a 7.5/10.
So anyway, all I want to ask is how does it feel to be handsome?
On September 14 2010 23:28 celious wrote: it feels pretty awesome brah, thanks for asking
Okay thanks for that, now what I'm trying to say is that you have like a big percentage of taking the girl home right? I mean for us beta guys we have to do a lot of tricks before we can take the bacon unlike handsome guys...
There's very little required as far as good looks for picking up girls. Hitting the gym is always going to help you and is also very rewarding physically. Undoubtedly a six pack can make things easier (of any kind you wish, but i find muscles are more rewarding in the long term) but also simple things like being confident in yourself, having a good sense of humor, and reading/using body language can be helpful.
This really isn't supposed to be a brag post, but i'm just as successful at picking up girls as the next guy. It's not hard and you'll find it happening naturally as you get older. If you're still in high school, girls there are extremely shallow and immature. As soon as you hit college everything gets better.
If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Thinking that looks matter will create limiting beliefs that's all in your head, and it's really bad for you. But if that's what you want to believe, I won't bother. I just pity you because you're holding yourself back.
Confidence is the most important. I used to be super handsome in high school (not anymore cuz I already started to lose my hair and I stopped sport when I discovered Starcraft), and I only got 2 gf in 3 years while most of my friends where getting laid non stop. I was handsome but almost autist :/
haha my scale of attractiveness is like 2 points for appearance 2 points for cuteness 2 poitns for intelligence 2 points for open to drug use 2 points for loves good music
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
I dont feel particulary outstanding handsome (or attractive). It's allways healthy to acknowledge your own looks, since it will grant confidence in the end. though I try to make myself as good looking as ican be arsed for the everyday but... ... As long as your not ugly, atleast making girls attracted to you (personality gotta follow) depends on how your humor and personality ALOT. Alot of times outgoing guys (like me) will just have to talk to girls. Some times it just hits you without knowing it.
Last party I was at, there was a girl who asked if "I wanted a little kiss?". (where after we kissed for like 10 minutes?) Seriously, the times where I been hooked up with a girl was mostly unexpectedly, most of the time its just girls you enjoy spend time with and the next thing you now it something MIGHT be happening.
One of the keys actually is not expecting in my experiences, hah
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
This is all assuming that the lady you're talking to is available. You can have all the confidence in the world, but in the end, women are the gatekeepers and if they don't want any, nothing is going to happen. This is something you can't change.
Otherwise, the tastes of women are diverse. Outside Hollywood there really aren't any universal 10's. My girlfriend gave me huge props when we met just because I'm a loud, off-the-wall nerd. If you're just looking to hook up and not start anything you really should accept the phrase "beggars can't be choosers". Are you going to score with the hottest lady in the room? Probably not. The ones who are not as good looking but seem bored and fun? Chances are looking better...
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
this made me lol so hard when I finished reading :D
Anyways I think I'm average I dont know when it comes to giving numbers. But I don't have problems talking to girls if I want. Just make the girl feel comfortable in your way. Usually this ends up with having confidence in yourself and atleast need to be able to talk about any subject with a girl which she can participate not much fun if you talk to a girl who knows shit
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
ahahaha, I think you might be doing it wrong.
Also, in the immortal words of the Geto Boys, "Damn, it feels good to be a Gangsta."
The thing about confidence i can agree with. pretty much through middle school as was some wimpy nerd. now i'm a confident nerd (but they don't always know that) who has accidently led on more girls than i can count =\
Get some good cologne and use it very lightly, get a nice haircut, work out, eat right, brush your teeth and make sure your breath is fresh, smile a lot and look girls in the eye.
Then seriously, you're gonna be like "lol girls aren't worth the effort fuck this" and they'll just start flocking to you.
Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
On September 15 2010 00:59 ella_guru wrote: Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
On September 15 2010 00:59 ella_guru wrote: Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
the subject relies on will from others
relationship is about two people
This I understand, but in order to relate, you have to at least make a basic effort instead of discarding yourself because you are "ugly"
On September 15 2010 00:59 ella_guru wrote: Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
the subject relies on will from others
relationship is about two people
This I understand, but in order to relate, you have to at least make a basic effort instead of discarding yourself because you are "ugly"
ah yeah
like GLaDoS said once
"you just keep on trying till you run out of cake"
On September 15 2010 00:59 ella_guru wrote: Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
the subject relies on will from others
relationship is about two people
This I understand, but in order to relate, you have to at least make a basic effort instead of discarding yourself because you are "ugly"
ah yeah
like GLaDoS said once
"you just keep on trying till you run out of cake"
LOL I have no idea of the context but it's a great sentence.
Go and download or buy Real Social Dynamics "Blueprint Decoded" seminar. It's a four day seminar that's 8 hours of footage per day I think. It underlines every single belief-system you need to be successful with women and eliminated all limiting beliefs you may have about looks and money in relation to women.
Of course, if you aren't willing to put in the effort or refuse to believe that everything you know about looks and money is all in your head, the material presented in the Blueprint Decoded DVD is useless to you.
Some people get girls because of some kind of otherworldly power. It was once dubbed "Kavorka". Take me for example: I am completely average. I personally don't think I'm that attractive(Personally think my nose is big lol), I am not all that confident around new people, alas I am but an average human being in reference to the size of my junk, and yet some extremely attractive girls(subjective opinion, remember) come onto me. I have a girlfriend, so I don't pursue any of them, but that's not the point. Some people have the Kavorka, and you don't have to be a handsome dude.
On September 14 2010 23:28 celious wrote: it feels pretty awesome brah, thanks for asking
Okay thanks for that, now what I'm trying to say is that you have like a big percentage of taking the girl home right? I mean for us beta guys we have to do a lot of tricks before we can take the bacon unlike handsome guys...
Beta is an attitude not a genetic predetermination of looks. Same goes with Alpha. Words are the best tool, looks should only be used to get you started.
Anywho, to be honest, you'll rarely get an 7/10 or higher bothering you if you're out of high school. All the 9 and 10's that came to me happened back then, and I wouldn't know them now if I hadn't before.. For a long, long time now, men have had to pursue women. Unless you're at a club and everyone is DTB, (which is 2/10 internally), the sky is still blue and we still breathe air. Nothing is new under the sun. I feel like a faggot even responding in as a "knowledgeable" individual, but the whole "how do I get girls" thing is only half-won with aesthetics--everyone knows this and you should too! Get at it.
On September 15 2010 00:59 ella_guru wrote: Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
damn right, who cares how many times she screams no, this it my universe baby, i make the rules.
I'd rate myself a 7-8 but that doesn't matter now. I am still in high school, and I haven't given this much thought. I can talk with girls properly just the fact is that THEY have to start the conversation It doesn't matter how you look. Personality goes, so does your well being. Not every girl looks for handsome people.
On September 15 2010 00:59 ella_guru wrote: Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
damn right, who cares how many times she screams no, this it my universe baby, i make the rules.
On September 15 2010 00:59 ella_guru wrote: Lol OP has no idea what's going on. It's the sort of mentality "sigh, other people but not me" that displaces responsibility. YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO. You dont need to be X handsome.
damn right, who cares how many times she screams no, this it my universe baby, i make the rules.
Lol if she's screaming you forgot the most important step.
only time i've experienced what it's like to be good looking is when i've gone into an IRC room full of super horny gays. insanely wonderful feeling to feel people are attracted to you.
it really is a big hit on your ego, as one guy said, when you think you're acting pretty cool and funny and confident and still no1 give a flying fuck about you...as the years roll on...
On September 15 2010 01:37 Quesadilla wrote: You're 8/10? I'm barely that; check profile.
Anywho, to be honest, you'll rarely get an 7/10 or higher bothering you if you're out of high school. All the 9 and 10's that came to me happened back then, and I wouldn't know them now if I hadn't before.. For a long, long time now, men have had to pursue women. Unless you're at a club and everyone is DTB, (which is 2/10 internally), the sky is still blue and we still breathe air. Nothing is new under the sun. I feel like a faggot even responding in as a "knowledgeable" individual, but the whole "how do I get girls" thing is only half-won with aesthetics--everyone knows this and you should too! Get at it.
Also, like what you like. Screw social norms.
what is DTB? down to bone? lol... quesadilla aren't you married or have a hot girlfriend anyway? :p
On September 14 2010 23:48 ArbAttack wrote: If you're truly a 7.5/10 you wouldn't be making this blog. I know because I rate myself a 7.5, and it feels damn good to be able to just strike up a conversation with pretty much any girls under 9 easily and grab their number. I guess the moral of my experience is that more guys need to just ask, girls are more open than you think as long as you're above 6.
Also, what ZergRush said.
I not great at talking to girls who are under 9 tbh, I just find I have to be so condescending for them to even listen to me.
Once girls get to like 18-19 I find it much easier to talk to them and feel much more comfortable getting their number, but maybe that's just me.
You put a smile on my face, after realizing it was a joke... I hope.
feels great having lots of friends that are girls.... i attract a lot of really hot girls but they just wanna be my friend when i really wanna just fuck them in their butts.. shit sucks man
On September 15 2010 03:04 decafchicken wrote: "Let's not turn this rape into a murder" seems to work pretty well for me
oh my gawd hahaha. so terrible. imo the looks u were born with are somewhat important, but even if your face isn't so attractive, improving your body, style and personality can make you into an optical illusion with the ladies!
Feels pretty good man, it feels like you're on top of the world and you look at a girl, and you can think in your mind, that bitch wants me. But that was in middle school. Not so much in high school anymore. My looks have gotten worse
Just get a nice haircut and dress like you aren't homeless. Should work unless you are neither funny, nor naturally cute, nor talented. I didn't think I was particularly attractive throughout high school(though some girls begged to differ), but once I got a decent haircut and stopped wearing only marching band shirts, things panned out well for me.
i'm super average looking and i feel great. can you relax?
related fact, 93% teamliquid users are models who are extremely fluent with women
On September 15 2010 03:41 Hypnosis wrote: feels great having lots of friends that are girls.... i attract a lot of really hot girls but they just wanna be my friend when i really wanna just fuck them in their butts.. shit sucks man
On September 15 2010 03:41 Hypnosis wrote: feels great having lots of friends that are girls.... i attract a lot of really hot girls but they just wanna be my friend when i really wanna just fuck them in their butts.. shit sucks man
I would think the difference is that you get hit on directly instead of putting some kind of effort into it. I knew a few instances where my "hot"-looking friend was basically hit on and fucked after. Thing is, I'd never consider him hot, he seemed shallow and retarded to me. Same was with the girl though. Since most girls seem to fit this description, he never had a problem with getting laid.
The only times I was directly hit on after coming to the US (about 20 yrs old) were either some black/dark skinned chicks with questionable looks (I had to dodge those but was on the verge of thinking about it) or some skanky-looking white girls. The only nice girl that directly hit on me was the one that was proof reading my essay, I'm not too sure how much that influenced her decision (that essay came out pretty emotional).
I am talking about girls that literally hit on you, not the ones that play around and kind of present you with an opportunity. It's almost impossible that someone with great looks would do something like this, Quesadilla made a good post about it. Maybe when they can get anything, like Paris Hilton kind of story, than it's different. I can picture a 9/10 guy being obsessed over, where he gets calls from girls he doesn't know or constantly bumps into conversations even when he doesn't want them, that would be the answer to the OP.