everything was fine. at end of club i went to the bathroom while girl friend waited outside the club.
i came out from bathroom and my girl friend was all hissy, bitchy, accusing, demeaning and aggressive suddenly (in my eyes).
she said (as if talking to dirt) "i cant find the others now because of you".
i said "because of ME? its MY fault?"
she said (bitch voice) "well YES"
i shouted "GO FUCK YOURSELF" and walked off
now this girl has a unique temperment where if something doesnt go her way she is vocal about it. some would say its "picky" and appreciative behaviour, some would say its "bitchy" behaviour. i really admire her for it because its a powerful and commendable attitude, something that most pussy girl-less men would do well to aspire to.
but on some occaisions it gets directed at me and i feel like its nasty and inappropriate.
in the past i would always be a pussy and be like "oh im sorry for upsetting you" or i'd have to whine back at her like "well blah blah blah" with some dumb justification or riposte.
but ive been listening to david d'angelo etc tapes lately and being more aware of my pussyness and my own (lack of) pickyness and strength of character.
so when she started on me this time i just flipped and swore and walked off in a rage.
now it all happened in a split second and i was raging all the way home (how dare she talk to me like a dog).
so 2 days later i msg her online and shes like "arent you going to apologise??". i said (being totally calmed now) "no. that was an unacceptable way to talk to me."
after a little back and forth she said something like "you want me to lick your ass???" and i called her batshit crazy, and hence commences the arguement about who was wrong and who was right.
i told her that my REACTION was a reaction to HER shitty action. SHE made me angry and it was HER fault.
i took the position that if you talk to someone like dirt then they're going to get mad at you, and that she shouldnt have been aggressive and bitchy.
she simply responds with "why dont you practice what you preach" (since i had blown up and swore at her).
how the fuck can i respond to this? all i could say was "dont turn this round onto me". shouldnt she be thinking about her own behaviour rather than just blame blame blaming mine?
now, my conclusion
i done the right thing in the wrong way. i was a bit drunk and totally flipped out when i felt her repeat this demeaning attitude at me.
i maintain that i had a right to be angry even though im not sure if i can get her to clearly see this. i reacted totally on autopilot and wont apologise for swearing at her because that is how SHE made me feel with HER actions.
what i SHOULD have DONE was simply tell her "look, you cant talk to me that way, its totally unacceptable. blah blah lets go find your friends."
now..........................post ur opinions