On April 30 2013 22:48 JimmyJRaynor wrote:Show nested quote +On April 30 2013 01:40 Doodsmack wrote:On April 29 2013 15:16 Shakattak wrote:On April 27 2013 15:31 Doodsmack wrote:
So tonight, I go to a bar along with a friend who was meeting up with his girl, who has two pretty good-looking friends with her. I talk to the one throughout the night. I guess it was just normal conversation, but there was some teasing from me and physical contact from her. On the cab ride home it turns she lives right across the street. She was saying she was hungry and then was like "let's good food, where are we gonna get food." I tell her I could make something at my place. We end up chasing her neighbors dog around who was out in the street. So we end up in front of her door and she says something like "we each have food". She smiles and hugs me. I say let's hang out again and get her number. She gives me her number and then says she's engaged so she doesn't want me to get the wrong message LOL. The fuck man. How do I distinguish between that and when a girl is actually interested? Guess you pretty much have to guess and hope for the best. Never did look to see if she has a ring. Maybe I'm at the age I should do that.
Anyways. Played video games too much in life and missed out on girls. Need to make something happen. It's the approach I'm afraid of though. In this case I was introduced so it was easier. That's an incredible fear to get over, if you have it. Shyness is a bitch. It's a long road up from here, boys. Need to find some major motivation.
Have you tried online dAting ? i have Aspergers syndrome and i find a lot of females and people in general unbearable . i have had quite a bit of success with okcupid and pof. you dont have to deal with that coy bullshit and if being shy is your problem chatting through your monitor may be easier. talking about subjects that you both are interested in really allows you to not have to worry about the mine field of conversing with a woman you already will know what she likes and you guys know what you have in common so when you meet her just be yourself and just TALK to her.
Yeah I've tried online, my problem is getting responses. I've gotten 2 dates out of it. But I get like a 5-10% response rate.
fuck online dating...
meet women through the regular course of your every day life.
you see a girl you think is hot... who you meet....
say so in a nice dignified way...
a se nior software developer// programming book author i've worked with a lot over the past 5 years has a younger sister, "Melissa"... who is abso-fucking-lutely gorgeous.
in a weird coincidence she does some office admin work with my #1 customer.
we exchanged several polite "hellos and goodbyes" and chatted in the cafeteria with the standard small talk....
you know... "bad traffic" ... "winter lasting too long.." etc.
after several of these exchanges and her familiarity and comfort level with me increasing...
i'd decided it is time to move in....i decided within the next 3 or 4 encounters it was time to increase my "level of authenticity".
during some "girl talk" that abruptly ended once i entered the cafeteria ... i could tell "Melissa" and her uber hot pal were complaining about dumb guys harassing them...
they stopped the second i entered...
directing my comment at "Melissa" i said...
"i realize it can be annoying.. but lemme tell ya, Melissa,.. after seeing you...i think most atheists would have a hard time not believing in God".
that is how to tell a woman she is fucking gorgeous without being rude. no need to say "nice ass"...etc.
further information about how crappy online dating is.women are attracted to men from numerous sensory methods... men are primarily visual... this is why online dating sucks so bad.
smell plays an important role for women... the average height of male and female also facilitate this...none of this can be communicated through "online dating".
also, when i get turned down by a woman in a "real situation".. and i am dignified and polite throughout it all...
even remaining totally polite and civilized after the rejection.... and "carrying forward"...
her female pals fucking swarm me with "fix up girls" for me to meet.
quit twisting your mind into pretzels of rationalization with all this "self analysis" and just live your life dude.