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dAPhREAk
Nauru12397 Posts
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Passion
Netherlands1486 Posts
On August 04 2013 06:45 Chocolate wrote: I was going to post something like this. OP, you have to grow the fuck up. I would think this would be immature for like a teenager, but for a young adult (28) this is seriously unacceptable. Exactly. Either be grateful or get the hell out. And stop messing with your moms happiness. | ||
hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
On August 04 2013 01:56 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: If he's the type of person you seem to think he is, he's probably trying to get your mother alone, zone everybody else out of her life so that he can control her completely and utterly. That's usually the endgame for people like him. I take it your mom is pretty passive? This sounds likely. I say get a job first and see if that helps your relationship with the guy. Go out of your way to do chores for him and stuff, buy him a beer once in a while, basically be the nice guy that does nice things whenever he's around, and then leaves. So what you want to do is, every time there's an interaction with him, do something nice, and then leave. But don't make it reaaallly weird where he thinks you're making fun of him or something. Don't be sarcastic. Okay, if that doesn't help then he is literally incapable of having a meaningful relationship with you. In this situation it is your responsibility to look out for your mother and make sure he will not be abusive when he gets her alone. If you have doubts, then you should try to convince her to move on from him before you leave. But you really should leave as soon as you can in this kind of circumstance. The only thing keeping you is your family's wellbeing. Edit: Also get a job. You can't find full time? Then work two part times and move out. You're 28 son. Do work. You fucked up. You don't get time to make millions anymore. Work. | ||
dAPhREAk
Nauru12397 Posts
On August 04 2013 07:53 hp.Shell wrote: This sounds likely. I say get a job first and see if that helps your relationship with the guy. Go out of your way to do chores for him and stuff, buy him a beer once in a while, basically be the nice guy that does nice things whenever he's around, and then leaves. So what you want to do is, every time there's an interaction with him, do something nice, and then leave. But don't make it reaaallly weird where he thinks you're making fun of him or something. Don't be sarcastic. Okay, if that doesn't help then he is literally incapable of having a meaningful relationship with you. In this situation it is your responsibility to look out for your mother and make sure he will not be abusive when he gets her alone. If you have doubts, then you should try to convince her to move on from him before you leave. But you really should leave as soon as you can in this kind of circumstance. The only thing keeping you is your family's wellbeing. Edit: Also get a job. You can't find full time? Then work two part times and move out. You're 28 son. Do work. You fucked up. You don't get time to make millions anymore. Work. lol. the guy cant act not miserable when he is being paid for it, and you are telling him to act not miserable without getting paid for it. amusing. | ||
MountainDewJunkie
United States10340 Posts
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marttorn
Norway5211 Posts
edit: he says i am leaching off of him Well, if it looks like a duck & quacks like a duck... | ||
micronesia
United States24342 Posts
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Elegy
United States1629 Posts
On August 04 2013 08:39 micronesia wrote: Living with your parents when you can't find a decent job really isn't that weird (it also depends somewhat on what area you live in). I'm not specifically defending the OP, but the degree to which living at a parent's house at 28 is culturally accepted varies a lot from place to place... so judging it based on what is normal in your area is often not applicable. Agreed, but I think most people are getting the vibe that the OP lacks the motivation and dedication to hold a job. He was fired twice (!!) for "being miserable", which means he has a shitty attitude when it comes to holding down menial and crappy jobs. You can be miserable, but if it means you get fired (twice), that's a sign of a major problem with one's work ethic. | ||
MountainDewJunkie
United States10340 Posts
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
my mom owns 2 houses now (5 bedroom each, one rented) and delights in having me back with her. i know i have problems like having 0 friends, getting bad luck with coworkers or working conditions , i guess i have never been anything but intensely miserable and depressed in all of my jobs except one (a short one), so i think that might be a thing that is putting me off so badly. to me its not just "do the job", its "extreme suffering at the hands of terrible conditions or asshole coworker and go home feeling completely hopeless, lonely and shit every night" i actually liked my very-short receptionist job where i was alone and minimal bullshit. cleaning caravans is pretty horrible , im slow so i get below minimum wage (like £5/hour) but idk how people do it faster without skipping shit or working like a fucking hurricane nonstop with no breaks, which is retarded. but its nothing compared to some previous jobs, and i dont have to bus for 2 hours to get there and back | ||
Yorbon
Netherlands4272 Posts
On August 04 2013 07:23 CecilSunkure wrote: Hahaha, indeed.I think you've single-handedly created the need for a [Coming of Age] tag for TL blogs. Although i didnt expect him to be 28. I guess maturity isnt as strongly correlated with age as i thought. | ||
Burrfoot
United States1176 Posts
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sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
On August 04 2013 09:11 Yorbon wrote: Hahaha, indeed. Although i didnt expect him to be 28. I guess maturity isnt as strongly correlated with age as i thought. i guess it isnt asshole! | ||
brian
United States9531 Posts
slam dunk mate | ||
Assault_1
Canada1950 Posts
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
On August 04 2013 01:39 Denzil wrote: Have you and your sister ever spoken to your mother about this? Otherwise start going to the gym and beefing up for the inevitable clash Im with him on this one, time to start thinking about opening a can of whoop ass. That will surely make you the dominant Alpha male in the household. | ||
hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
On August 04 2013 07:59 dAPhREAk wrote: lol. the guy cant act not miserable when he is being paid for it, and you are telling him to act not miserable without getting paid for it. amusing. The solution is the solution is the solution. My first two paragraphs were without reading the entire thread, and my edit was with a better understanding. | ||
AnachronisticAnarchy
United States2957 Posts
On August 04 2013 09:57 Ushio wrote: Im with him on this one, time to start thinking about opening a can of whoop ass. That will surely make you the dominant Alpha male in the household. I can't tell if you're joking. You're joking, right? | ||
VayneAuthority
United States8983 Posts
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