1. At all times, appear confident and in control
In our society, people will generally trust someone who looks like they know what they’re doing. The trick to mastering this principal is to actually be confident and in control.
Confidence is not a characteristic, it’s a skill. People must learn to be confident. People who are not confident have not mastered their will power and learned to convince themselves to move beyond insecurity and step into action and self-assurance. Confidence is grown in the soil of continual victories. Remind yourself of your victories and how you achieve them and become confident. Insecurity will not rule against your proven triumphs.
Once you’ve learned confidence you can step forward with it into most situations, regardless of the reality of the situation. Bluffing is lying. But if you believe your lie, it comes more naturally and seems more honest.
2. Be a risk taker
Start small and gradually grow in your risks. Through trial and error you will learn how big you can go in certain situations or with certain audiences. Be okay to lose when taking risks. If you cannot afford to lose, don’t take the risk. Use your smaller wins to build confidence into larger risks.
3. Don’t over-bluff an audience
Like the boy who cried wolf; don’t over stay your visit with your bluff, it will backfire in your face. Your audience will learn about your, perhaps strange, behaviour and they will question it.
Again, bluffing is lying. Lying goes against the natural flow of logic – usually. The difference between a bluff and a lie is that a bluff is not discovered as a lie. A successful bluff will be taken as truth, bluffing is truth to the deceived. A lie has been understood as a lie; hence the audience can call it that. So your unnatural actions, taking place too many times, will be discovered as a lie. Space out your bluffs.
4. Your fundamental mentality should be: “I won’t get caught”
This is a hard one to master and it takes us even further down the path of becoming a sociopath… so tread lightly into this mentality…
The non-bluffer will think, “Oh man I’m guna get caught if I do this.”
The bluffer will think, “I know I’m not the center of the universe, no one is really watching or caring, I won’t get caught.”
The non-bluffer thinks this way because they’re acting out of character and the experience is weighing heavily on their mind. Furthermore, people are convinced everyone is watching them at all times and so we believe we have to act a certain way publicly.
In reality, no one gives a fuck about you; they’re too busy reflecting on themselves, so you can probably get away with most bluffs.
The bluffer also realizes that no one has comprehensive knowledge of most situations. They know that a counter argument in the mind of the deceived– while they are processing the bluff – will win the day because of lack of information.
5. Always withhold information
As previously discussed, lack of information is the number one ally to a bluff. If you know you’re going to be in an arena where bluffing is essential to getting what you want – withhold information.
Your behaviour is your most valuable display of information. Like in a game of poker, a player’s actions with their cards – and the way they condition their opponents to believe what their actions are – are more important than the actual cards – in a bluff situation. By folding, raising, etc. in specific methodology, a poker player can condition their opponents to believe they have certain cards throughout a lengthy game. When the time is right, they can act in accordance with historic “hands” and bluff against their opponent creating a victory.
6. Don’t bluff out of being caught – fold
If you suspect someone is onto your bluff, don’t try and double bluff to get out, just give up and fess up. Believe it or not, this display of truth will set you up perfectly to bluff again in the future – hah!
Use moments of truth as your ally to set the stage for the next bluff.
This blog was brought to you by the same author who wrote:
How To Break The Rules
How To Get What You Want