Is what I find myself often thinking when I reflect on the inequalities between men and women that I hear about so much in the media and around the dinner table, bar, or any other social setting these days as many of us discuss current social issues and trends.
Now, I'm not saying these issues don't exist and that I don't have the need, or know the need to advocate on behalf of equality and fairness. And I can totally recognize how past and present generations (men and women alike) have created the equality I (we) now benefit from.
But the evil patriarchy and obvious division that is often referred to is not (obviously) evident in my flow - work, social, home, etc.
So I wonder, what's my duty as a man now living (mostly? entirely?) in an equal state with those in my workplace, social, home and other aspects of life?
Now there are people that are obnoxious, unfriendly, competitive, use hierarchy to their unfair advantage, expect less of those around them, belittle those around them, and the list goes on. I don't immediately jump to inequality or ideologies that would suggest that their "snowflaking" or being a "boss bitch" - or referred to a result of an "evil patriarchy", or any other trendy stereotype that goes along with any of these division ideologies that exist that we're all battling right now. I see people acting unfairly and in inequality as people in a fair and equal world taking advantage of their role, power, prestige, and/or many other factors that have absolutely (in my opinion) nothing to do with a fundamental inequality.
To partly answer my own question listed above, I believe part of my roll is to identify and advocate responsibly, to defend the equality we've achieved but to also not jump to creating more division by saying something absurd like "oh you're just a result of an evil patriarchy" and suggesting it's socially wrong and needing change.
There will always be assholes - men and women - in this world. And to take away the achievements we've had socially and to overly emphasize ideals that create diversity is in itself going against the results we're starting to enjoy in our western world.
I'm part of a changed and changing world. I'm an advocate of change and equality for all, and I will responsibly understand and advocate (to the best my knowledge and experience allows) what this means for those in my immediate influence. And I will not unfairly jump to trendy ideologies and arguments that create division and take away from the progress we've made socially just because a man or woman hurt me or pissed me off. I will address all of these issues head on, personally and I will responsibly - moment to moment, day to day - create awareness and a social flow that allows for growth and advancements in my life; for all those I connect with and interact with.
If you're experiencing blatant inequality in your life, in a fundamental and profound way (as a man or a woman), then I'm all about identifying with and acknowledging change in a fundamental way. There are people and places that can help you and that care for you. Seek them out and become the change you need or seek in life, and start by challenging individuals. And socially we are all cheering for you and trying to make a difference. Change has come, change is coming. We are the change we (past and present) wanted to see in this world.