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Alright after some not so sober thought I have come to the conclusion to ask tl for some advice... don't bother reading if you don't want to hear about my shit.
Context:
Okay anyways I have just turned 18 about 2 months ago and graduated highschool with good grades.. things were going well up until about march or april of last year.
Overall through highschool I had probably only skipped say around 10 days per year and it was much the same in grade 12 until I hit the last quarter of the year. I knew I just had to get certain grades to get into a good university so I pretty much just aimed at attaining those and finishing up. So I ended up skipping probably about 30-40% of the days left in that ~2.5month period. Which I know is definetely not a smart thing to do but whatever I got accepted into a good university and family was happy etc.
For some reason from that period up until now I have lost all academic motivation.
I was never a person who found school interesting in the least but I forced myself to get good grades so that I could keep my options open as much as possible. This was so that I could do what I wanted when I found out what that was. I still don't know what the hell that is.
I found out zero friends are attending this university, and like 90% of them are taking time off school to work.. most wouldn't have a shot at getting to it anyways but intend to go to another post secondary at some time.
So I started uni at the beginning of september just taking Physics, Calculus, and Chemistry. Chem is an interesting subject to me but can be extremely dry, math and physics are okay some times but I find those boring as well. I told myself before I began that I wasn't going to be able to motivate myself to do this much work if I didn't like the subjects. Well now about 3 weeks in I find I don't like the classes, I have no friends in the school and don't even know anyone, and I'm stuck with my parents on my back to get a higher level education.
So..
What the fuck do I do here? If I drop my classes and get a job with some friends my parents are going to be pissed, I'll lose around $500. Not a big deal since I will be working but at least I'll be doing something with friends and making some money.
I have the intention of going back to university as soon as I feel I am ready (ie. find what I would like to do.) The major problem is lack of motivation to put the effort in to something I don't like... I have no idea what I want to do for a living but I know it involving science isn't it.
Can anyone suggest how I go about bringing this up with my parents, alternative solutions or magical sources of motivation, what would you do?
 
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sit in on different classes and experiment with stuff. you might find something you like. join student clubs and meet people and do cool things. try studying abroad? not going to college is never a good idea. i think many schools let you take a year off so do that instead.
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Washington, D.C9810 Posts
you'll always have your high school friends (at least your very close ones), but take the time at university to branch out and find something you like. it took me two years to finally get acclimated and really like/get to know my school, and i'm glad i stayed. it may seem bleak but a good school is not an opportunity to be taken lightly.
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You're not alone, it is perfectly normal to want to take some time out after high school to pursue something else. Once you pursue a job or something you will eventually realize how great an education will do you and you will willingly go back to college.
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Your parents really do know best in this situation -- stick it out, join a club and get really involved to make good friends, take some fun classes alongside the core classes, etc. to rekindle your interest in school ;p
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If it's only about friends that you don't like uni you shouldn't quit. Because there just comes a time in life when you get divided from ALL your friends.
But if it's like you said and you don't like the classes go quit. No way you should study something that you don't like, that's ridiculous because you actually have to work in that field your whole life then. You already have the grades and you are just 18. You can study later, and working is a real good thing to get some thoughts. Don't know how to tell your parents though. Just be honest I'd guess.
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You'll prolly get mad at me but : make new friends and stay at university. You have chemistry wich is much needed these days(ive been told) and it can earn you big $$.(if you are good a it ofcourse ^^ )Secondly you must atleast know a few people whom you talked to?(dont tell me you didnt chit chat with anyone in the time that you've been there?) Well start by inviting them for a party you are gonna throw(yes throw parties) or just ask them to go have a drink. Or something. Also get a hobby(hobbies) like drum or guitar or cooking lessons or dance school or i dunno "how to make good coktails(sp? :p) 101. I mean dont be shy and get busy ^^
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Canada25558 Posts
Make a conscious effort to find friends.
Most people who "take a year off" end up taking their life off.
Don't drop out of university.
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At least finish your first year then drop out? Who knows, maybe your opinion will change by the end of the year. That's what happened to me.
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Cayman Islands16638 Posts
take some sociology class at least. you can be a rebel with a vague cause!
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