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So i guess this is the 4th day since we are officially a couple. I invited lilah to a bar, because some of my friends who were coming from holidays were in town, and we agreed to meet on a bar.
So i agree with her i'll pick her up at 8. I hate myself and i ended up picking her at almost 9. She wasnt mad or anything, like she didnt mind the time. So we headed for the bar who was a few block's away from my gf house...
I parked the car and we started kissing while we waited a bit for people to arrive. And suddenly she brings up an issue. "hey i need to tell you something". I was naturally laid-back and cool and i was like, sure, tell me whatever.
For some reason it crossed my mind we were going to break up. I wasnt upset or anything, i just felt like, bah whatever, if this relationship wasnt going to work anyway why waste the time. So then she comes with the weirdest thing ever. She starts, with her eyes almost in tears, pretty watery:
"You're so great, and awesome and handsome, i dont feel like i deserve you. I mean you could get any woman you'd like, why did you put your eyes on me???"
and i was inside my head like WHAT THE FUCK, but i answered like; you dont get to decide whether you deserve me or not. I like you. (in a very confident way)
then she's like "i dont want you to play with me, because i dont want myself to be just a hobby for you". (i thought, wow am i that awesome that she's seeing me as a player omfg (maybe its a bit arrogant but w/e)) And im like "Look chaparrita, i want to be with you atm, you're not a game, i take you seriously".
She almost bursted into tears, but a swift kiss from my part made us make out. We waited like 5 mins more and went for the bar.
We had a good time in the bar, even though my friends arrived fucking late @ 1 hour after we arrived, 1:30 hrs after it was scheduled. Near the end, i get this look from my girl "I WANT YOU", so i ask her if she wants me to pay the bill and leave. I got an instant yes @_@.
We arrived near her house and i parked the car. I told her: you're all mine now. and she's like: we should go to the back seat. Silly me i didnt listen and started making out. When things started to get hotter, i had to tell her to we should go to the back seat, and she was like: i told you, lol.
As the time passed things started to get hotter and hotter to the point we were almost fucking, except we had clothes on and we were in the streets (inside my car obviously). The street was private so we had no risk of cops gladly.
I never thought i was soooo good. I made her moan and scream even though we had clothes on. I think we arrived at 12:30 am and she left for her house at 2:30. I swear that if that would have happened inside my house or her house (both were alone i think) things could have gone further.
This was so weird because she starts like she's going to break up with me and then we end like this. I have a feeling she might have a deep crush on me even though i have none on her. It's weird :\ i like her, i hope i can handle this.
nightmare out.
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On August 31 2008 16:59 RtS)Night[Mare wrote: nightmare out. feurbach out?
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Damn man, nice job. There's always next time though to go inside ;D
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i meant, RtS)Night[Mare out.
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Theres a small road between unsecure dude and f.u.c.k.e.r. :D
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Spenguin
Australia3316 Posts
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Then you woke up and changed undies.
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pimp yo
Must be good to know somebody you like thinks you're the most awesome guy ever.
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United States11637 Posts
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I might have misunderstood but wtf?. If you don't even have a crush on her and she is so madly into you and you still call her your gf you are a soulless fucker who deserves to get shot :/
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On August 31 2008 19:00 KlaCkoN wrote: I might have misunderstood but wtf?. If you don't even have a crush on her and she is so madly into you and you still call her your gf you are a soulless fucker who deserves to get shot :/
I think you misunderstood
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Dude this like blog what 4-5 about the same girls ... He gave her a soda pop tab for gods sake. This is my sweet / young romance blog that I always make sure to check.
Disaster aversion, Gj dude.
I hate that "confused " shit... I don't ever handle it well =(.
GG yo~!
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On August 31 2008 19:16 XCetron wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 19:00 KlaCkoN wrote: I might have misunderstood but wtf?. If you don't even have a crush on her and she is so madly into you and you still call her your gf you are a soulless fucker who deserves to get shot :/ I think you misunderstood
Yeah.. I hope I did... But I am unsure how else to understand the part where he thinks that it is weird that she has a deep crush on him while he has none on her.
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On August 31 2008 18:16 Scorch wrote: pics?
lol owned
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United States22883 Posts
Well played. Just make sure you don't pull a Scorpion and get bored in 2 weeks. Then she'll hate you and we're all going to hate you.
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Netherlands19124 Posts
If it doesn't stretch it'll tear, no worries.
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Dude, you better take her seriously!
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United States12607 Posts
I think she's a nice girl purely based on her name. Lilah! What a hot name!
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:/ :r
youre such a twat and a heartless oompaloompa :/
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On August 31 2008 20:35 KlaCkoN wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 19:16 XCetron wrote:On August 31 2008 19:00 KlaCkoN wrote: I might have misunderstood but wtf?. If you don't even have a crush on her and she is so madly into you and you still call her your gf you are a soulless fucker who deserves to get shot :/ I think you misunderstood Yeah.. I hope I did... But I am unsure how else to understand the part where he thinks that it is weird that she has a deep crush on him while he has none on her.
I think she has a crush on me but im not quire sure, im just alking from my experience. It's weird because with my past gf i rmember being in a big big crush with her. It just doesnt happen with this girl. Not like im taking advantage of that. I really like her, she's like myself in woman. I mean she likes to play SC, gears of war, diablo, SSBM, likes Kamelot, Avantasia, Rhapsody, Knows what the fuck starwars movies are about, enjoys actions movies etc. I just dont have a crush on her that's all. I hope it clears your doubts : )!
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Lololol, better not break her because then I think half the internetz would go apeshit on you
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If you are not in love, or on your way to falling in love with her you should make sure she understands that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with beeing best friends with a girl and having awsome sex with her on the side. What is fucking wrong though is when she is "in love" with you and all you want is to be best (sex)friends but in order to get with her you fool her into thinking you are actually in love as well. I have been on the recieving end in such a relationship and it was the worst, most horrible, fucked up experience ever. Please, please make the world a better place and be honest with her.
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Is lilah the one in your profile pic? cuz that pics been there for more than 4 days.
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On September 01 2008 02:22 KlaCkoN wrote: If you are not in love, or on your way to falling in love with her you should make sure she understands that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with beeing best friends with a girl and having awsome sex with her on the side. What is fucking wrong though is when she is "in love" with you and all you want is to be best (sex)friends but in order to get with her you fool her into thinking you are actually in love as well. I have been on the recieving end in such a relationship and it was the worst, most horrible, fucked up experience ever. Please, please make the world a better place and be honest with her.
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no , the girl in my profile is a friend of mine. i dont have pics with lilah yet, ill post one when i have one
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South Africa4316 Posts
On September 01 2008 02:22 KlaCkoN wrote: If you are not in love, or on your way to falling in love with her you should make sure she understands that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with beeing best friends with a girl and having awsome sex with her on the side. What is fucking wrong though is when she is "in love" with you and all you want is to be best (sex)friends but in order to get with her you fool her into thinking you are actually in love as well. I have been on the recieving end in such a relationship and it was the worst, most horrible, fucked up experience ever. Please, please make the world a better place and be honest with her. I disagree with this. You're putting some magical value on "in love" and "out of love". I wasn't particularly "in love" with my girlfriend when we started going out, although I did like her and found her attractive. Two years later and now I can say that I love her, and that I am in love with her.
Nightmare seems to like the girl, and I don't think you need to be head over heels in love with someone when you go out, and there's nothing dishonest about that. Love develops, and love at first site is more accurately called infatuation. If she has a crush on him, good for him, hopefully she can develop that crush into something more sustainable, and he learns to love her (not necessarily be infatuated with her) as well.
Also, Nightmare has never mentioned that he wants to fuck her in his blogs (except this one to some extent, and it's fairly understandable considering...), he's always just said that he likes her personality and finds her attractive. So unless he is "using" her for her personality, which is bizarre, I don't see what's wrong.
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lol ur in for a rollercoaster gl
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GG YO GJ & GL
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On September 01 2008 07:26 Daigomi wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2008 02:22 KlaCkoN wrote: If you are not in love, or on your way to falling in love with her you should make sure she understands that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with beeing best friends with a girl and having awsome sex with her on the side. What is fucking wrong though is when she is "in love" with you and all you want is to be best (sex)friends but in order to get with her you fool her into thinking you are actually in love as well. I have been on the recieving end in such a relationship and it was the worst, most horrible, fucked up experience ever. Please, please make the world a better place and be honest with her. I disagree with this. You're putting some magical value on "in love" and "out of love". I wasn't particularly "in love" with my girlfriend when we started going out, although I did like her and found her attractive. Two years later and now I can say that I love her, and that I am in love with her. Nightmare seems to like the girl, and I don't think you need to be head over heels in love with someone when you go out, and there's nothing dishonest about that. Love develops, and love at first site is more accurately called infatuation. If she has a crush on him, good for him, hopefully she can develop that crush into something more sustainable, and he learns to love her (not necessarily be infatuated with her) as well. Also, Nightmare has never mentioned that he wants to fuck her in his blogs (except this one to some extent, and it's fairly understandable considering...), he's always just said that he likes her personality and finds her attractive. So unless he is "using" her for her personality, which is bizarre, I don't see what's wrong.
I am not putting a magical value on love at all, I am merly using the word as a reference to a certain set of feelings or a certain state of mind. In Swedish we have different words for the feelings right at the begining of a relationship and in a more marture one. I don't know the distiction in English however so I am using the word love to describe all of it which gets a bit clumsy. Anyway I don't think there is much point to calling someone your girlfriend if you are not dancing on pink clouds so to speak. Especially if the other person actually is dancing on pink clouds. Why can't we reserve romantic relationships for when "love" is involved? There is nothing wrong to call someone a friend, when friendship is all you feel. Sure two people who both are not dancing might decide to call each other boy and girlfriend for whatever reason. But when one is and one is not it is evil and mean to exploit their feelings imo. At least without telling them about the situation. Whether you do it for sex or friendship or both is largly irrelevant.
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is awesome32251 Posts
On September 01 2008 01:39 8Pylon wrote::/ :r youre such a twat and a heartless oompaloompa :/
LOL :D
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There's a difference between obsession and love. I think she may be obsessed with you man, be careful. You seem to be in the right position that you aren't obsessed with her though, so you have the upper hand.
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wow man you're a smooth roller. It sounds like she is crazy for you.
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Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
On August 31 2008 16:59 RtS)Night[Mare wrote: This was so weird because she starts like she's going to break up with me and then we end like this. I have a feeling she might have a deep crush on me even though i have none on her. It's weird :\ i like her, i hope i can handle this. Standard. She's got a crush on you and is just being carried around by her emotions with no control over them. =/
If anything, if you're looking for a serious relationship then you should ask that question of her, i.e. why should she stay with you and not leave you for some other guy? I doubt she has a real answer beyond the usual stuff (you're hot, you're funny, you're smart, you're nice, etc. that applies to every guy when a girl has a crush on him). Sounds like you don't have one either but that's fine. But if you want this to be serious then you'd better think about it.
I've thought about how I'd respond to that question if a certain girl asked me, and the good news is, I can give a good honest answer. Except if she asks me, "What if another girl comes along who has all those things AND ______?" (e.g. plays StarCraft, plays Arcana Heart, etc.) Still not completely sure what to say about that, because obviously the selfish thing to do would be to learn more about this girl to see if she's a better match for me. But I guess if I did that then how could any girl trust me + I'd have to draw the line somewhere + the golden rule, sooo that would be why I'd still stick with her...?
(I'm a real charmer, as you can tell.)
So personally I'd just be honest, but (a) I'm interested in a serious relationship and (b) I've actually thought about my answer beforehand. If not for that... I guess I'd have to ask if I can get back to her on that? o_O Hey it's not smooth, but I gotta be honest with you, Nightmare: your answer was full of dodge.
And now that travis mentions it, if she's anything like how I used to be, then expect inexplicable mood swings like this to happen a LOT.
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