Yup another one. Sorry but as a famous new testament scholar once said when all else fails read teamliquid.net.
In summary Told girl I liked her...got a sort of strange no response 4 months ago since shes leaving for a foreign trip. See her on regular basis, started to get better responses from her recently. Got a while before she leaves. I want to use this time to do something but not sure what...don't wanna be too pushy since she said no but at the same time don't want to do nothing.
Go for it if you feel that its the right thing to do. Only you can decide whether or not to act or not to. All I can say is don't let a good thing go by, and don't be too pushy.
i agree if you are on a level where girls dont want you, trying for them will make everything even worse you first need to be confident and look decent, actually looking good only helps, but if girls dont like you atm and nothing changes with your personality then theres no point in actually trying for a girl but if shes sending u signals just go for it like a man and learn from it, such experience is exactly what you need to become more manly - what girls want a confident, cocky man who knows how tot ake care of himself yo dawg
If you really can't let go of the thought of her, you should just ask her out directly, it is way better to get a plain no than to go around dealing with a maybe. If you get a no you can at least move on. Long time maybes are such waste of time. Good luck either way, though, hope she gives you a yes this time.
Do you find your sig makes it difficult for you to get responses to your posts?
if she said no she probably assumes you've taken that and you're now friends, don't misconstrue friendship as her changing her mind. she rememebers and if she changes her mind she'll let you know also do you really want to start something with her going away? put it out of your mind, maybe things will change when she comes back, maybe not.
EDIT: re-read.. you say that you got 'better responses' i've assumed that just means you've been friends. is that right?
lol regarding hitting the gym and such...im not a fat nerd. I'm totally thin, dress well, confident, relatively popular, everything. I could date other girls at university and such but I don't. It's this girl I want to be with.
Yeah but again how do I do this without being pushy? How should I go about this?
I have asked her out directly as possible and received a not now sort of thing... we agreed to meet and we spent the day together and i said to her.
I'm not really in favour of doing the same thing again. Perhaps something more subtle, less aggressive.
Yes we've been friends and continue to be. Not super close but yeah friends.
not super close is good, don't want to be a friend, you want more...
give her time... when i asked my girlfriend out i spent the first 3 days of our relationship thinking she had said maybe when she'd actually said yes (communication has never been our strong point!)
BUT its worth pushing for an answer, limbo sucks for you both. gl!
options: date until she leaves (that means you don't see her again if she says no again) remain friends until she leaves don't see her until she gets back
Yeah i dont mean super thin... i look normal/some muscular content. Man you people....back on topic!
lol at the "brick wall" post.
hmm yeah limbo sucks but kicking down the front door metaphorically speaking may not necessarily produce the desired result....thats in summary the whole issue here.
Its not a matter of what should I do its a matter of how.
LOL is this site even close to legit? (you can just lie about your gender and put some terrible advice for the opposite gender right? O____O).
At OP, not enough information, I guess? Girl blogs usually don't work very well, because we as guys cannot understand how in the world they think...right?
ok... if you want to date her until she leaves... i'd say make it absolutely clear that that's what you want, then carry on as normal until she makes up her mind.
On December 28 2010 10:55 fabulously wrote: If you really can't let go of the thought of her, you should just ask her out directly, it is way better to get a plain no than to go around dealing with a maybe. If you get a no you can at least move on. Long time maybes are such waste of time. Good luck either way, though, hope she gives you a yes this time.
♥ great response, I really agree with this one. And as a girl it can be awkward knowing a "guy friend" likes you but he isn't super direct. It's best to have settled one way or the other.
Plus if she's not into you then just forget her! It's no fun hanging out with someone you like who doesn't reciprocate, right? And if she gives you another maybe she's being obnoxious. =P
She already said no, why are you still bothering? Move on, there are many girls in the world. Nothing feels worse than time and effort completely wasted. Except for a paper cut.
On December 28 2010 11:12 celious wrote: being thin != looking good, get muscular THATS WHAT THE WOMENS WANT.
I disagree. Best is lean grace (think tennis, soccer). Really muscular (think basketball, football) men are not attractive.
Took the words right out of my mouth.
While basketball and football stars get lots of women, the tennis and soccer players definitely have the most adoring fans. C-Ro, Roger Federer, Rafa Nadal, David Beckham (to name a few). You won't see many girls squeal over Dwight Howard no matter how hard he dunks
On December 28 2010 11:12 celious wrote: being thin != looking good, get muscular THATS WHAT THE WOMENS WANT.
I disagree. Best is lean grace (think tennis, soccer). Really muscular (think basketball, football) men are not attractive.
Took the words right out of my mouth.
While basketball and football stars get lots of women, the tennis and soccer players definitely have the most adoring fans. C-Ro, Roger Federer, Rafa Nadal, David Beckham (to name a few). You won't see many girls squeal over Dwight Howard no matter how hard he dunks
Not many girls squeal over Ronaldinho or Drogba either while Tony Parker and Brady definitely get laid. Maybe you shouldn't judge the attractiveness of a black guy if you can't rate it for shit.
Actually look up who they date, maybe that would help.
Whoa, whoa, whoa, I'm not saying black guys are ugly... I'm just saying that soccer and tennis are your typical "bishounen" (I'm not Japanese, but I stole it from Japanese lol--basically "beautiful men") sports... I bet basketball stars get laid more than soccer/tennis stars (though I can't actually generalize for anything without making a fool of myself).
I'm just saying that in general, in terms of musculature, I think girls prefer dudes who are the "lean grace" type of people. Those sports are just examples....though now that I'm rereading my post, it does sound as if I called Howard fugly for being black (since I pretty much compared him to Ronaldo, Fed, Rafa, and Beckham). Sorry for offending you
yo OP, if you're getting the vibe then go for it! if she rejects you then whatever, long distance relationships RARELY work out, so no sweat. anyways don't be so hung up on a single girl, they're nothing special heck look around they're about 50% of the people you see (irl). my advice is similar to others, if you're interested in pursing sexual relations with females, get buffed, and go to a place where there are females and beer. if you want an actual relationship however, just make friends with girls and go for the ones you get along with =).
On December 28 2010 15:33 Z3kk wrote: Whoa, whoa, whoa, I'm not saying black guys are ugly... I'm just saying that soccer and tennis are your typical "bishounen" (I'm not Japanese, but I stole it from Japanese lol--basically "beautiful men") sports... I bet basketball stars get laid more than soccer/tennis stars (though I can't actually generalize for anything without making a fool of myself).
I'm just saying that in general, in terms of musculature, I think girls prefer dudes who are the "lean grace" type of people. Those sports are just examples....though now that I'm rereading my post, it does sound as if I called Howard fugly for being black (since I pretty much compared him to Ronaldo, Fed, Rafa, and Beckham). Sorry for offending you
You didn't offend me one bit (I'm not black either), it was just weird you singled out Howard versus those guys, I guess you noticed it too. Reason I asked you to look up who they date is because none of the soccer stars date actual celebrities (besides Beckham), other guys just go after local models that no one outside of their country ever heard of. Either soccer players are too dumb to date singers and actresses or Europe is different in this regard - I don't know. Maybe you will dig out a few examples if you actually try but it would be an exception. In the US baseball players like A-Rod or Jeter date TV divas and superstars - Madonna, Kate Hudson, Jessica Alba, Adriana Lima etc. I don't know if I should bring up NFL players, they are not missing out on any of this action either. Parker dated Eva Longoria, someone like Howard is still very young, seeing how he does movies I'm sure he is getting any ass he wants. Basically these are the buffest guys out there, maybe it's a local preference but at least in the US they are all sex symbols. Maybe if Howard was wearing one of those man purses and tight pants he would become a hit in Europe too.
its so simple its ridiculous, to get the girl you want, you need another girl!
Find some second rate girl to hang out with you and use it to simply stir your targets reaction towards you, you will probably find she is infinitely more interested in you now that you have a "girlfriend" all your options will unfold from there