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Calgary25938 Posts
On February 22 2008 04:23 rpf wrote:How did you know? She has this ridiculous idea that I do nothing other than play video games, which she, of course, considers a waste.
That sounds pretty logical to me.
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That solved the mystery...NO computer games for litle rpf here...no touchy or daddie will get the belt!
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On February 22 2008 05:29 Chill wrote:Show nested quote +On February 22 2008 04:23 rpf wrote:How did you know? She has this ridiculous idea that I do nothing other than play video games, which she, of course, considers a waste. That sounds pretty logical to me. Financially, I'm better off living with my mother. I chose reducing the amount of debt I will be in after receiving my degree to be smaller than it could have potentially been in the event I moved out earlier.
Either way I get screwed over.
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Baltimore, USA22222 Posts
So.... why don't you just get a part time job? Money + you get out of the house + get her off your back...
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yeah dude, its a pain in the ass to get a job and cover bills, but shit, if i was in ur situation, id be outta there the day i turned 18.
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moms are always right, even when they are wrong
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If cost of living is high where he lives, he probably wouldn't be able ot move out with a parttime job. In socal, you need a full-time job + roommates. I have a parttime job (20-30 hrs /wk) while I finish school, supplemented with loans (about 6k/year). Reasonable debt is better than coming home to bitchy people who are desperately grasping to retain control over your life. I wasn't able to be friends with my parents until I moved out. We have a great relationship now.
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Braavos36362 Posts
this isn't really a big deal, a lot of people are annoyed with their parents. you are simply not annoyed enough to part with the value you get from saving on housing. if its not bad enough to force you to get a job and move out, it's not that bad.
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If your gonna live in her house, you gotta live by her rules... thats quite fair. Old people tend to get annoying, but thats normal.. ignore the annoying things, listen to what they say.. its not like they're going to live for much longer.. Only once they're gone you'll realize how much you actually love them.
I know this post sounds cheesy, but trust me on this...
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On February 22 2008 11:15 EvilTeletubby wrote: So.... why don't you just get a part time job? Money + you get out of the house + get her off your back... There are other factors I have to consider that I'm not comfortable sharing here.
While I have considered that option numerous times, it almost always comes back to one thing: it probably wouldn't work.
On February 22 2008 11:31 Hawk wrote: yeah dude, its a pain in the ass to get a job and cover bills, but shit, if i was in ur situation, id be outta there the day i turned 18. Yeah, I've wanted out for a long time. It took me a while to realize I wanted out not because every college student does, but more because my mom is just too overbearing.
On February 22 2008 13:18 HeadBangaa wrote: If cost of living is high where he lives, he probably wouldn't be able ot move out with a parttime job. In socal, you need a full-time job + roommates. I have a parttime job (20-30 hrs /wk) while I finish school, supplemented with loans (about 6k/year). Reasonable debt is better than coming home to bitchy people who are desperately grasping to retain control over your life. I wasn't able to be friends with my parents until I moved out. We have a great relationship now. The only way I could afford my own place on the pay of a part time job would be if I rented the shittiest place I could find with one or two other people. Now, the shittiest places I know of would result in a cost on my car insurance. I'd have to drive much father to get to class, and only god knows how long to get to my hypothetical job. T_T
On February 22 2008 13:28 Hot_Bid wrote: this isn't really a big deal, a lot of people are annoyed with their parents. you are simply not annoyed enough to part with the value you get from saving on housing. if its not bad enough to force you to get a job and move out, it's not that bad. A friend of mine once said something to the effect of "You've lived with her for 19 years already; what's a couple more?" Of course this was a while ago when we were talking about how she's difficult to be around, nevermind live with, and that I just wanted my degree so I was in a better position to live on my own.
I do want out, but when I weigh the pros and cons of it all, it generally comes down to the money aspect of it all vs. my sanity.
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On February 22 2008 13:18 HeadBangaa wrote: I wasn't able to be friends with my parents until I moved out. We have a great relationship now.
Try living @ home AND working with your family
/facepalm.
I think I like torturing myself
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Move man move! I and lots of my friends were in the same situation as you. Tough that was a good 8-9 years ago lot’s of us just moved out. One by one. Some had the money or the job others worked their asses off. I was one of the last ones to acctualy move out (because i used my money to travel and wasn’t really home that much). Countless arguments, wich of course you can’t win, because well she’s a woman and they don’t need sense to make a point (at least they don’t care).
Some people, when they move out, move to a place where everything is spitshiny and their lifes go on with the same standard they had while others completly shake of their luxury. The reason why i left was simple. My parents split up i lived with my mom for about 4 years, my dad was a workaholic (and alcoholic) and my mom a gold digger. And the less money she had, the more she needed to vent. And since my dad wasn’t there, i fought the battles. You can keep up with that kinda stuff for a long time, but there comes a moment were you explode and all the frustration comes out.
So i moved. My first place: 1 room, a balcony and a bathroom. Since i sleep japanese style the room had everything i needed. I lived in the middle of the redlight district, 5th and last floor. Kinda like peter parker just without the superpowers and the girl that brings over a cookie was a whore and her cookie was her dick. Don’t get me started on the glas of milk. But i had a solid door and headphones did the rest. The only thing i missed there was my studio equipment (music) but i was too afraid to bring it there because you never know. I traveled 3 hours per day for work and even tough the place was shit. It was mine. Granted my sexlife hit rock bottom there.
My second place: 2rooms, a kitchen and a bathroom. Felt and smelled like heaven. And a kitchen!! How i missed that for 1 ½ years. So one room was the living room / bedroom and the other one my studio / gaming room. No „what’s that smell?“ moments, no „who’s that infront of my door?“ moments either. It looked kinda like the left appartment from friends just without the 3rd room.
Now you need to understand that i grew up in a family that had some serious cash. Until they of course lost it, but still. I never cared what anyone tought about my situation and i was happy to just life on my own. Oh i remember the words of my mom then: „You can’t live there, you never get a job with that place“. Yeah my mom…status was everything for her. Never meant anything to me.
Living on your own can be a tough bitch. But it’s worth it and it get’s better with every new place you find. Today i have my 4 rooms and 2 balconys and i love every inch of it.
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On February 21 2008 14:06 rpf wrote: I'm 20. I'm 21 in May. Well you should be moving out anyways...youre too old to be living at home.
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On February 27 2008 14:54 TheFoReveRwaR wrote:Well you should be moving out anyways...youre too old to be living at home.
I moved out when i was 20, my brother who is 4 years older moved out after i did :p
Its not that hes to old, its just that due to his family life its better if he leaves, hes hit that threshhold of mommy wants you out and is turfing you from the nest.
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I don't understand how you are still living at home when you are twenty... Are you Asian (or more specifically, Chinese)?
I get along with my mother so well, and I still moved out into University dorms after I turned 18, I just wanted to try living on my own, and it's so cool.
I mean, sure, it's nice when everything is ready for you, it's nice when you don't have to do shit, it's nice when you don't have to worry about anything, but you have to move out sooner or later.
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If he was Chinese
1. His parents would have moved him out if he was playing massive video game. 2. This blog wouldn't exist because he enjoys taking care of his parents.
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