Before you finish reading rest of the post. Please complete this poll below.
Poll: Do you plan on getting married?
Yes (or already married) (658)
52%
No (599)
48%
1257 total votes
No (599)
1257 total votes
Your vote: Do you plan on getting married?
Please read the spoiler AFTER you completed the above poll.
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Currently, in the US and much of the Western world, divorce rates are high - 40% to 50%! And under many jurisdictions, divorce greatly favors the women. Some key issues includes;
- Women initiate divorce in 70% of the cases
- Women almost always get custody of children
- Women may get 50% of the family asset AND lifetime of support payments from her ex
- Support payments of 30% of the ex-husband's income (before taxes) is common, the court may impose additional payments. The payments may still be required even if the husband loses his job AND have no money.
- Support payments (for the woman AND child) may be required even if you have proven your wife cheated AND DNA testing proves the child is not yours.
- Women commonly make false accusations of domestic abuse against their ex.
- Women commonly violate court order and deny the father access to their children.
In essence, marriage is now a one sided bet by men. All the risk and responsibilities are being assumed by the husband but the rewards and freedoms are controlled by the wife. In fact, for disgruntled wives in a marriage, instead of weathering the difficult times with her husband, she now has an incentive to use divorce to coerce their husband into submission. If he does not submit, she will force the divorce and he will lose his children, money and become her financial slave for rest of his life.
In contrast, men who chose to co-habit with their girlfriends can enjoy sex, companionship and still retain his financial and personal freedom. Simply put, given the options of co-habit and marriage, some men simply do not find it worthwhile to go the extra mile.
[Please note I am not trying to bash women in general nor claiming most women are dishonest, I am simply stating, based on what I've read elsewhere, WHY men are avoiding marriage. In fact, many of the men did not blame women, they blamed the harsh legal system as reason for their fear.]
- Women initiate divorce in 70% of the cases
- Women almost always get custody of children
- Women may get 50% of the family asset AND lifetime of support payments from her ex
- Support payments of 30% of the ex-husband's income (before taxes) is common, the court may impose additional payments. The payments may still be required even if the husband loses his job AND have no money.
- Support payments (for the woman AND child) may be required even if you have proven your wife cheated AND DNA testing proves the child is not yours.
- Women commonly make false accusations of domestic abuse against their ex.
- Women commonly violate court order and deny the father access to their children.
In essence, marriage is now a one sided bet by men. All the risk and responsibilities are being assumed by the husband but the rewards and freedoms are controlled by the wife. In fact, for disgruntled wives in a marriage, instead of weathering the difficult times with her husband, she now has an incentive to use divorce to coerce their husband into submission. If he does not submit, she will force the divorce and he will lose his children, money and become her financial slave for rest of his life.
In contrast, men who chose to co-habit with their girlfriends can enjoy sex, companionship and still retain his financial and personal freedom. Simply put, given the options of co-habit and marriage, some men simply do not find it worthwhile to go the extra mile.
[Please note I am not trying to bash women in general nor claiming most women are dishonest, I am simply stating, based on what I've read elsewhere, WHY men are avoiding marriage. In fact, many of the men did not blame women, they blamed the harsh legal system as reason for their fear.]
Now that you have finish reading the spoilers, will you still consider marriage?
Poll: Do you still plan on getting married?
No (487)
53%
Yes (or already married) (424)
47%
911 total votes
Yes (or already married) (424)
911 total votes
Your vote: Do you still plan on getting married?
Update: Variations of Marriage Strike
Due to the fear of predicaments around marriage and divorce, there are also other life style behaviors closely associated with Marriage Strike.
- Birth Strike. In some jurisdictions (ie Canada), pregnancy/birth automatically grant your girlfriend the same legal status as a wife. Consequently, men practice Birth Strike with their romantic partner, refusing to allow pregnancy.
- Breakup. In some jurisdictions, prolonged co-habitation result in automatic recognition of marital status for legal purposes. Some men routinely breakup to avoid such status. Although it is unclear if they simply enjoy "playing women".
- Expatriation. Dissatisfied by the perceived corruption of the local female population, some men intentionally marry women not native to his nation. Some travel to another country for marriage, some marry foreigners on working visa. While this is not a strike to marriage, it is a boycott against the domestic supply of women.
Final food for thought
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The issue of men dodging marriage is of concern to the researchers because it has the following implications.
- Causes women to become pregnant at later age of her life or never bear child at all. This lead to health concerns for mother and child as well as reduced birth rate.
- Estimated 40 to 50% of women at age 50 will become single in the UK (presumably when they are no longer beautiful enough to have a man). This may be less of an issue for men as they go for younger women.
- Marriage is a much more stable relationship than co-habit, which is critical for upbringing of children. Destruction of marriage will lead to social disorder.