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On October 03 2012 05:32 Mr. Black wrote:Show nested quote +On October 03 2012 04:11 QuanticHawk wrote: hahahahaahha yeah what a dirt bag did you guys read about the part where he had to pry her legs open with the jaws of life oh ok neither did i You don't need to be a rapist to be a piece of shit. If only I could think of an example...
the second this married dude stood in front of her, this girls legs opened up like the automatic doors to a supermarket. let's be real here, they're both fucking idiots
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On October 03 2012 12:27 QuanticHawk wrote:Show nested quote +On October 03 2012 05:32 Mr. Black wrote:On October 03 2012 04:11 QuanticHawk wrote: hahahahaahha yeah what a dirt bag did you guys read about the part where he had to pry her legs open with the jaws of life oh ok neither did i You don't need to be a rapist to be a piece of shit. If only I could think of an example... the second this married dude stood in front of her, this girls legs opened up like the automatic doors to a supermarket. let's be real here, they're both fucking idiots Aside from the fact that you don't seem to have read the OP very closely (he wasn't married; they didn't have sex), IMO the person with the other relationship is always more to blame. He's the one who's reneging on a commitment, not her.
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On October 03 2012 12:42 QuanticIllusion wrote: wat?
back me up bro were on the same team
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Thanks to everyone who posted genuine words of advice.
I mainly posted this because I just wanted to share this story. I am aware that what I did was wrong and unacceptable, and I am just as responsible for what happened as he is. I am neither looking to meet with him outside of work again or develop a real relationship with him now that I see clearly what kind of a guy he is.
On October 03 2012 05:44 tonight wrote:Chick is obviously too busy going on secret dates to respond to her own blog. Quickly and quietly deleting any sort of evidence that she was "politely" asked to remove "for us ".
I have no idea what you're trying to say here. I have not asked anyone to delete anything, nor has anyone asked me to remove anything.
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On October 03 2012 13:08 amethyst wrote: Thanks to everyone who posted genuine words of advice.
I mainly posted this because I just wanted to share this story. I am aware that what I did was wrong and unacceptable, and I am just as responsible for what happened as he is. I am neither looking to meet with him outside of work again or develop a real relationship with him now that I see clearly what kind of a guy he is. Learning from it and moving on is the right response. The only thing I'd add is that the experience can help you spot a jerk sooner next time. Just because someone's a good flirt doesn't mean they're a great person.
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On October 03 2012 13:08 amethyst wrote:Thanks to everyone who posted genuine words of advice. I mainly posted this because I just wanted to share this story. I am aware that what I did was wrong and unacceptable, and I am just as responsible for what happened as he is. I am neither looking to meet with him outside of work again or develop a real relationship with him now that I see clearly what kind of a guy he is. Show nested quote +On October 03 2012 05:44 tonight wrote:Chick is obviously too busy going on secret dates to respond to her own blog. Quickly and quietly deleting any sort of evidence that she was "politely" asked to remove "for us ". I have no idea what you're trying to say here. I have not asked anyone to delete anything, nor has anyone asked me to remove anything. What kind of a guy is he to you now?
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On October 03 2012 05:06 xedric wrote: I've been on TL for years but never care to post anything but since this touched me in a way I'd like to add my thought.
I "stole" my girl from her 13 year marriage, 16 year relationship and we've been going strong for 8 years now. Looking forward to the next 20. You never know who you may meet regardless of your status. There is always someone better for you out there and if you find them then why not give it the chance? If you don't you are just settling for something less that you know won't achieve the happiness you want for your life. You only live once. Enjoy whatever life gives you and whether it works out or not you still have those memories.
I read this and cracked up laughing. You should include the sentence, "Looking forward to the next 20. Or until my wife figures out I'm always looking for a better her, and she starts looking for better me."
As for OP. -The guy used you. Learn and move forward.
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On October 03 2012 13:35 metbull wrote:Show nested quote +On October 03 2012 05:06 xedric wrote: I've been on TL for years but never care to post anything but since this touched me in a way I'd like to add my thought.
I "stole" my girl from her 13 year marriage, 16 year relationship and we've been going strong for 8 years now. Looking forward to the next 20. You never know who you may meet regardless of your status. There is always someone better for you out there and if you find them then why not give it the chance? If you don't you are just settling for something less that you know won't achieve the happiness you want for your life. You only live once. Enjoy whatever life gives you and whether it works out or not you still have those memories. I read this and cracked up laughing. You should include the sentence, "Looking forward to the next 20. Or until my wife figures out I'm always looking for a better her, and she starts looking for better me." As for OP. -The guy used you. Learn and move forward. Actually if you try and automatically believe that getting married = blinders on every single other girl out there, then your married life will be hellish
I firmly believe two things are necessary for a happy marriage
1) a good pre-nup that clearly delineates who gets what in a divorce 2) a renewal clause in the marriage that requires both parties to actively renew the marriage every four, five, or six years
so many marriages die because one party or another just believes it can skate on by now that it's locked up both sides to an eternal contract. people make mistakes all the time. why make marriage the one mistake with which you have to suffer for the rest of your life?
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On October 03 2012 13:41 Shady Sands wrote: I firmly believe two things are necessary for a happy marriage ... 2) a renewal clause in the marriage that requires both parties to actively renew the marriage every four, five, or six years I'd never heard this idea before, but it's actually really neat. I'm half convinced that people should start taking your advice. (As for the pre-nup, I'm wholly convinced that people should have one.)
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NeverGG
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He sounds like a right creep. If he's willing to do this to the woman he's in a relationship with, then who is to say he won't do it to you? (Oh wait, he did.) Also, tbh you're also at fault for going along with it when you know he has someone else imo. Both as bad as each other. I'd never think of doing something like this to someone else - it smacks of a lack of self-control and selfishness.
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On October 03 2012 13:41 Shady Sands wrote:Show nested quote +On October 03 2012 13:35 metbull wrote:On October 03 2012 05:06 xedric wrote: I've been on TL for years but never care to post anything but since this touched me in a way I'd like to add my thought.
I "stole" my girl from her 13 year marriage, 16 year relationship and we've been going strong for 8 years now. Looking forward to the next 20. You never know who you may meet regardless of your status. There is always someone better for you out there and if you find them then why not give it the chance? If you don't you are just settling for something less that you know won't achieve the happiness you want for your life. You only live once. Enjoy whatever life gives you and whether it works out or not you still have those memories. I read this and cracked up laughing. You should include the sentence, "Looking forward to the next 20. Or until my wife figures out I'm always looking for a better her, and she starts looking for better me." As for OP. -The guy used you. Learn and move forward. Actually if you try and automatically believe that getting married = blinders on every single other girl out there, then your married life will be hellish I firmly believe two things are necessary for a happy marriage 1) a good pre-nup that clearly delineates who gets what in a divorce 2) a renewal clause in the marriage that requires both parties to actively renew the marriage every four, five, or six years so many marriages die because one party or another just believes it can skate on by now that it's locked up both sides to an eternal contract. people make mistakes all the time. why make marriage the one mistake with which you have to suffer for the rest of your life?
Whoa, hold it there. Not every man can be Tom Cruise and not every woman can be Katie Holmes.
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Dude is a bitch with a ego. He knows what he is doing, he only wants to stick his p in your vagee. Why would you even think about having a relationship with a guy who apparently thinks it is perfectly ok to cheat on his fiance whom he is supposed to be marrying in a couple of months?
To the guy who "stole" his girl, what happens if someone "steals" her from you? If you are married or even just mutually exclusively dating you are making a commitment to that person. To tell that person you are the one but then look for someone better behind their back is fucked up. If things are going that badly between you and your partner, that you are interested in other ppl fucking man up and tell them you need to seperate, you don't have to go and cheat behind ppl's backs. Unless your girls ex was physically abusing her she apparently was already looking for an out before you met her and she just didn't have the means to do it on her own. What is to say she isn't sick of your shit right now and just looking for the next or better man to leech off of?
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On October 03 2012 05:06 xedric wrote: I've been on TL for years but never care to post anything but since this touched me in a way I'd like to add my thought.
I "stole" my girl from her 13 year marriage, 16 year relationship and we've been going strong for 8 years now. Looking forward to the next 20. You never know who you may meet regardless of your status. There is always someone better for you out there and if you find them then why not give it the chance? If you don't you are just settling for something less that you know won't achieve the happiness you want for your life. You only live once. Enjoy whatever life gives you and whether it works out or not you still have those memories.
I'm confused. Why are you with your girl now? Clearly there is always someone better for you so why are you settling with her. It sounds like you won't achieve the happiness you want for your life with this girl. You should go look for someone better and when you find them keep looking for someone better. Good luck achieving the happiness you want for your life with this method. It sounds full-proof.
On October 03 2012 13:41 Shady Sands wrote: Actually if you try and automatically believe that getting married = blinders on every single other girl out there, then your married life will be hellish
I firmly believe two things are necessary for a happy marriage
1) a good pre-nup that clearly delineates who gets what in a divorce 2) a renewal clause in the marriage that requires both parties to actively renew the marriage every four, five, or six years
so many marriages die because one party or another just believes it can skate on by now that it's locked up both sides to an eternal contract. people make mistakes all the time. why make marriage the one mistake with which you have to suffer for the rest of your life?
Marriage is simply a partnership. A good marriage is a kind of partnership where two people trust each other with their lives. If you trust someone with your life, then material things kind of don't matter. I'm of the belief that if you don't trust your spouse with you life then you should not get married. And yes marriages should be "renewed" but not every 4 or 5 years but constantly. If you only worry about your marriage every 4 or 5 years I guarantee you the marriage will end long before that.
Getting back to the OP, the guy is a creep and he used you. Just be glad that you're not the one who has to marry him and that he's not sneaking behind your back.
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I don't understand why everyone is backing up the OP. "He's a creep, he used you, he's trash, blah blah blah". You knew full well ahead of time that he was engaged and you decided to have dinner with him. You're fully capable of stopping the date at any time, but instead you wanted to see where things would lead. You're both equally to blame, and both equally at fault. If he's considered trash, so are you. Stop crying and make some real changes or you're never going to find a healthy relationship with someone.
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Never said I was looking for someone better but if someone came along then why would you throw that away?
Do you think its okay to stay with someone who makes you unhappy? You realize that if you are unhappy then they are too just by the way you will treat them because you are not happy.
It's silly to think you can meet the best person for you so easily. There are over 7B people in this world.
Small problems can be fixed in a marriage with compromise. Large problems usually relate to your individual personalities and these cannot be changed. Recognize them so that you know when to bail. Why waste the time for both of you for something that will turn bad later?
[B] To the guy who "stole" his girl, what happens if someone "steals" her from you? If you are married or even just mutually exclusively dating you are making a commitment to that person. To tell that person you are the one but then look for someone better behind their back is fucked up. If things are going that badly between you and your partner, that you are interested in other ppl fucking man up and tell them you need to seperate, you don't have to go and cheat behind ppl's backs. Unless your girls ex was physically abusing her she apparently was already looking for an out before you met her and she just didn't have the means to do it on her own. What is to say she isn't sick of your shit right now and just looking for the next or better man to leech off of?
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On October 04 2012 08:52 xedric wrote:Never said I was looking for someone better but if someone came along then why would you throw that away? Do you think its okay to stay with someone who makes you unhappy? You realize that if you are unhappy then they are too just by the way you will treat them because you are not happy. It's silly to think you can meet the best person for you so easily. There are over 7B people in this world. Small problems can be fixed in a marriage with compromise. Large problems usually relate to your individual personalities and these cannot be changed. Recognize them so that you know when to bail. Why waste the time for both of you for something that will turn bad later? Show nested quote +[B] To the guy who "stole" his girl, what happens if someone "steals" her from you? If you are married or even just mutually exclusively dating you are making a commitment to that person. To tell that person you are the one but then look for someone better behind their back is fucked up. If things are going that badly between you and your partner, that you are interested in other ppl fucking man up and tell them you need to seperate, you don't have to go and cheat behind ppl's backs. Unless your girls ex was physically abusing her she apparently was already looking for an out before you met her and she just didn't have the means to do it on her own. What is to say she isn't sick of your shit right now and just looking for the next or better man to leech off of?
I just don't understand how someone could get married without knowing about these huge problems related to personalities. I don't understand what the heck else would you even base a marriage on if not compatible personalities??? Really what it sounds like to me is a cop-out. An excuse that you use when you don't want to put in the work that it takes to make a relationship work:
"Eh my wife and me are just not compatible enough and besides I found somebody hotter better for me so really I'm doing this for the both of us"
I guess whatever makes you sleep better at night.
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Blog/comments definitely deliver. Strong work everyone.
All blogs of this nature should start with the ages of those involved.
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On October 04 2012 08:52 xedric wrote:Never said I was looking for someone better but if someone came along then why would you throw that away? Do you think its okay to stay with someone who makes you unhappy? You realize that if you are unhappy then they are too just by the way you will treat them because you are not happy. It's silly to think you can meet the best person for you so easily. There are over 7B people in this world. Small problems can be fixed in a marriage with compromise. Large problems usually relate to your individual personalities and these cannot be changed. Recognize them so that you know when to bail. Why waste the time for both of you for something that will turn bad later? Show nested quote +[B] To the guy who "stole" his girl, what happens if someone "steals" her from you? If you are married or even just mutually exclusively dating you are making a commitment to that person. To tell that person you are the one but then look for someone better behind their back is fucked up. If things are going that badly between you and your partner, that you are interested in other ppl fucking man up and tell them you need to seperate, you don't have to go and cheat behind ppl's backs. Unless your girls ex was physically abusing her she apparently was already looking for an out before you met her and she just didn't have the means to do it on her own. What is to say she isn't sick of your shit right now and just looking for the next or better man to leech off of? Because you made a commitment to the person you are with.
No, that is why I said man up and seperate if you're not happy, don't go looking for the next hunny pot to feed out of first. Don't say that she wasn't looking for it because if she wasn't she wouldn't have found you. I am in a happy relationship and I don't go around meeting women thinking I'd like to wife the fuck out of this chick.
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