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On September 22 2013 12:42 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: This guy gives off an insanely strong vibe that he was born without certain vital things that allow a person to be normal and was never taught what he was missing and how to fix it. Unfortunately for this guy, he hasn't learned young. He'll need years to re-wire his brain, and that's if he's willing to acknowledge that he's fairly fucked up and willing to go through the massive effort of fixing himself. Not ganna happen because according to him we "know nothing about the situation" and are "completely baseless".
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Ok Shauni. We don't understand the situation, and we don't know you either. All we know is a couple paragraphs of text that we can interpret any way we wish. So I can understand why you don't take a lot of what we say seriously. However you have to look at the end result of your actions. The end result is that you offended or threatened someone so badly that they cut all communication with you and go out of their way just to avoid you. That's not just slightly bad, that's REALLY bad. There is no course of respectable action that will result in that kind of thing. So when you say that you don't see any right or wrong in what you did, you are mistaken, because there's a something or many things wrong that you did in order to get to your current situation. I respect that you came here asking for advice instead of just carrying on with what you do. Since we give advice not fully knowing you or the situation, you can still take the advice to heart, but if you don't, then you have to figure out what went wrong. I am NOT okay with you just walking away from here doing what you do and thinking it's just being human. I don't know you, I don't know the situation, but I do know the end result, and I'm scared that you might hurt someone next time.
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United States40791 Posts
The posts made on my account other than this one were not by the KwarK you all know and love but rather by someone KwarK knows and loves. I have an alibi. I was doing this while this blog was made. http://toughmudder.co.uk/
Why not train for one of those Shauni. You get a headband and everything.
e: LADYLAND CHECKING IN AGAIN. I didn't want to double post.
On September 22 2013 12:42 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: This guy gives off an insanely strong vibe that he was born without certain vital things that allow a person to be normal and was never taught what he was missing and how to fix it. Unfortunately for this guy, he hasn't learned young. He'll need years to re-wire his brain, and that's if he's willing to acknowledge that he's fairly fucked up and willing to go through the massive effort of fixing himself. You're absolutely right. I don't think that his defensiveness is out of line though -- it's natural to get a little defensive when someone's telling you that you're a massive fucking creep and that you remind them of a really fucked up guy who killed three people because he couldn't get laid because he was a massive creep and generally unpleasant. All we can hope for is that some of it sinks in a little and he does start therapy and that he doesn't inflict himself upon a woman until he completes his personal journey.
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KwarK if it is indeed your girlfriend, why doesn't she register an account here?
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Lalalaland34461 Posts
She does have an account here but if she had to use that she wouldn't be able to ban creeps etc.
Anyway I'd like to verify that everything Def described about arguing with Kwark is true.
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On September 22 2013 12:49 CecilSunkure wrote:Show nested quote +On September 22 2013 12:42 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: This guy gives off an insanely strong vibe that he was born without certain vital things that allow a person to be normal and was never taught what he was missing and how to fix it. Unfortunately for this guy, he hasn't learned young. He'll need years to re-wire his brain, and that's if he's willing to acknowledge that he's fairly fucked up and willing to go through the massive effort of fixing himself. Not ganna happen because according to him we "know nothing about the situation" and are "completely baseless". At the very least I'm not baseless. I've gone through something a lot worse than this guy; similar type of problem, but on an entirely different level. I've got a lot of experience and knowledge about dealing with this kind of issue.
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On September 21 2013 08:27 Kaal wrote:Show nested quote +On September 21 2013 08:09 PanN wrote: " I tried to make a Skyrim model of her being...defiled. But those things are only briefly, shallowly easing my pain. "
"I smelled her jacket"
This just can't be real, I refuse to believe this. It's real. You should hear some of the crap shauni says in IRC. Or see some of his drawings.
I feel like this hasn't gotten enough attention. Can we see some drawings, please.
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Honestly he should seek counselling rather than making blogs on tl. Gender relations are difficult and complicated and some of us don't get them at first but you can get help. Nobody here needs to see or hear anything more from Shauni, he's said more than enough already without us needing drawings. This is beyond joke territory, this is someone out there in the world with a lot of anger towards women which needs addressing, not only for his personal wellbeing but also just for general public safety. This is not funny, it's disturbing.
Talk to a medical professional, say you feel you have a lot of anger and resentment towards women and that you'd like to address that.
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On September 23 2013 03:52 KwarK wrote: Honestly he should seek counselling rather than making blogs on tl. Gender relations are difficult and complicated and some of us don't get them at first but you can get help. Nobody here needs to see or hear anything more from Shauni, he's said more than enough already without us needing drawings. This is beyond joke territory, this is someone out there in the world with a lot of anger towards women which needs addressing, not only for his personal wellbeing but also just for general public safety. This is not funny, it's disturbing.
Talk to a medical professional, say you feel you have a lot of anger and resentment towards women and that you'd like to address that.
It's incredibly disturbing, I was just hoping for some extra evidence in case I ever find out his employer. I'm legitimately worried he's going to hurt someone.
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On September 23 2013 04:24 -Kaiser- wrote:Show nested quote +On September 23 2013 03:52 KwarK wrote: Honestly he should seek counselling rather than making blogs on tl. Gender relations are difficult and complicated and some of us don't get them at first but you can get help. Nobody here needs to see or hear anything more from Shauni, he's said more than enough already without us needing drawings. This is beyond joke territory, this is someone out there in the world with a lot of anger towards women which needs addressing, not only for his personal wellbeing but also just for general public safety. This is not funny, it's disturbing.
Talk to a medical professional, say you feel you have a lot of anger and resentment towards women and that you'd like to address that. It's incredibly disturbing, I was just hoping for some extra evidence in case I ever find out his employer. I'm legitimately worried he's going to hurt someone.
Guys like you are incredibly disturbing, trying to ruin someones life in order to feel better for yourself. Go somewhere else with your condescending attitude. Nobody is afraid of me and I'm not a danger to anyone but myself. You idiots keep bandwagoning and exaggerating things because your own lives lack excitement.
On September 23 2013 03:52 KwarK wrote: Honestly he should seek counselling rather than making blogs on tl. Gender relations are difficult and complicated and some of us don't get them at first but you can get help. Nobody here needs to see or hear anything more from Shauni, he's said more than enough already without us needing drawings. This is beyond joke territory, this is someone out there in the world with a lot of anger towards women which needs addressing, not only for his personal wellbeing but also just for general public safety. This is not funny, it's disturbing.
Talk to a medical professional, say you feel you have a lot of anger and resentment towards women and that you'd like to address that.
I've had sessions before with different therapists, not exclusively about this but more in general about my social life. I found that they didn't benefit me much though for various reasons. Plus it's kind of difficult to talk about women issues when the therapist herself is a young attractive woman. In general, they often bother me too much with 'concrete goals' and 'reason for seeking therapy'. I don't know what to reply to such things. I can't really say I resent women because it's not fully true.
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Lalalaland34461 Posts
So find a male therapist.
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United States40791 Posts
Ask your doctor for a different therapist then. You can't go on living the rest of your life like this. You've got like 70+ years to go, invest in sorting your shit out and finding some happiness. You can help this get better. Also, and I want you to read this carefully, even if you choose not to get any help, please, please recognise that it is you who has a problem and this is not the fault of those who you interact with. If someone communicates a boundary to you, respect that.
If they demand a reason for seeking therapy print out this blog along with your replies in it and let them have a read.
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I know this feeling. Just do what feels natural. Listen to your heart and body and soul My parents made me visit a therapist when I was in high school. He was an old guy with lots of experience and I found it hard to open up to him but looking at the situation retrospectively I wish I had
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Do not listen to your heart, body and soul. Your impulses cannot be trusted, your impulses are what have you, in your own words "defiling" a Skyrim character you made in her likeness. Listen to your head when it tells you that this behaviour is not normal and needs fixing.
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On September 22 2013 12:42 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: This guy gives off an insanely strong vibe that he was born without certain vital things that allow a person to be normal and was never taught what he was missing and how to fix it. Unfortunately for this guy, he hasn't learned young. He'll need years to re-wire his brain, and that's if he's willing to acknowledge that he's fairly fucked up and willing to go through the massive effort of fixing himself.
Hey i don't agree with this. I kind of had the same thing, where i would go for the women who i didn't really understand. OP, it sounds liek you're going for the wrong type of women. You need to go for the ones who understand you on a personal level so you act like a real person. Not someone who is smelling jackets. It's not the act of using one's nose that's weird.. it's just icky.. and invasive man. you're trying to be too close. She doesn't like you lik ethat. find someone else.
Pink and purple are girl colours. Blue is a boy colour.
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you know when you have that moment of realization your perception of the world is just completely wrong, or at least not as close to reality as you would have hoped? Yeah I believe that would be useful to you. Everything you say is based on the assumption that your perception is close to reality. Everyone in this thread will say your perception is highly distorted and not even close to the truth, but you have to see it for yourself. Otherwise, no one can help you
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Shauni, as of now you portray yourself as a creep, everyone agrees you seem like a creep, and you might even have a mental issue. Or you are just trolling. The only way you can possibly redeem yourself is to make a vlog explaining the story a bit better (after all verbal/written communication is far less powerful than nonverbal).
If you really want help and this shit is for real, do the vlog it's your only saving grace and hope for help in courting women.
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United States40791 Posts
Don't do that.
I guess it's because it's online and some people have trouble working out what is and isn't okay when dealing with other people online but even so, the people here trying to get some kind of vicarious enjoyment from this trainwreck ought to reflect on what they're doing. Maybe we shouldn't try extra hard to alienate and publicly humiliate Shauni, given what he's written so far.
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You're all being a little mean here. Maybe he just needs a friend to talk things through with, over some drinks.
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