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On February 05 2014 00:14 Ghin wrote: How does someone go from being a pussy to being focused and getting work done? I've been putting off starting a big project for a long time and I can't seem to get started with it. What advice do you have for someone who needs to focus and get the passion back for the work?
While I do repeat this a lot, I think it is the fundamental start of achievement in general. Focus is something a lot different than what most people think it is, for most people, they use the words concentration and focus interchangeably.
The simplest example I can give you is the radio is on, so you concentrate on your work, in spite of the music. Or the radio is on, and you turn it off, and there is nothing, just you and your work, that is focus. When there is nothing else but you and your work.
You need to simply resolve what is outstanding, take a bit of will power, take off the internet and put yourself in a room with the project and just have nothing else going on, tell your friends to fuck off for the day and then just have nothing left to do, but to do this, and that is focus. It does take some will power, so you need to start when you're at your best, whether you get a good night's early sleep at 9pm start, and wake up at 5am take a shower and get started when there is nothing. Then it's a moment of truth; take out a white sheet of paper, write the down the time, write down hourly increments, and when you want to get certain things done, then just work, and you'll miss some times, but if you have focused (meaning there is nothing to distract you), you will eventually get down to it.
In terms of passion, it's all linked to the big picture, but in small steps, read, again, 'good to great' and I think it can help at least articulate somethings and get your mind pumping a bit. Sometimes, we are just bogged down and we get depressed by work and nothing inspires us, because it is just so blah, but read up on the subject, start to think of new ideas/projects that are an offshoot of when you complete your current project and sometimes, you just need to put yourself in that environment when you can focus, then you need to man the fuck up and do it.
Just say this: I am a machine. and just fucking mindless break that motherfucking work down.
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On February 05 2014 00:20 CaucasianAsian wrote: Hey, I really enjoy all your responses. You truly are a wonderful man, and if given the opportunity, I'd love to join you for a drink, or a meal, or both.
Hey thanks ^^ well I hope when I have a chance I and I'm back in Korea we can organize a TL meet up to end all TL meet ups, just got to sort out some work first ^^ but I'm totally up for that as well.
Cheers!
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How racist are the Koreans, Chinese and Japanese? I've heard that it's really bad in Korea and Japan (esp when it comes to marriage) while Chinese people are more open to whites but that's about it.
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Are Swiss men manlier than other men?
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It's bad to generalise but what makes Koreans stand out from the rest of the world in terms of positive character?
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On February 05 2014 03:16 JieXian wrote: How racist are the Koreans, Chinese and Japanese? I've heard that it's really bad in Korea and Japan (esp when it comes to marriage) while Chinese people are more open to whites but that's about it.
This question has 2 levels, the mass not so educated level and the educated level.
The mass not so educated level:
Mainland Chinese: I'd say more like distrust than outright hatred but if you're a successful white guy and you marry the farmer's daughter or a rich Singaporean, great, but if you're a poor brown guy, no fucking way. Hong Kong: Not really at all, lots of mixed kids in HK. Taiwan: The land of macho guys, if you're a rich foreigner who can appreciate Chinese things, they are fine with it too, brown guy, not so much. But generally speaking, Chinese are less racist than Koreans and Japanese.
Koreans: pretty fucking racist off the bat, but, if you can prove yourself to be a good guy, brown or white or whatever, the friendship will be real and true and a circle of true friends can be made, but the racism is different; with white guys its more of a piss match, (when it comes down to it) and anyone dark skinned is just not really considered at all.
Japanese: pretty fucking racist and slightly more than Koreans, but, outside of anyone you marry, you will never be accepted in pure social circle unlike Korea (correct me if you think I'm wrong anyone, but I'm right, so you're wasting your breath), but they pretty much are racist against everyone equally including whites to browns.
On the educated level in the context of marriage. Chinese don't care too much as long as your family is rich. Koreans still care but if your family is respectable and high class for your country (not necessarily rich), it may be acceptable. Japanese still care, but will accept it.
I think another way to look at it is when you speak their language. A Chinese person will find joy when you try to speak to them in Chinese A Korean will feel pride when you try to speak to them in Korean (if your a white), if you're an overseas Korean with a bad accent (if they are low educated) they will act indignant and insulted (cause its a pride thing that you're supposed to be Korean so why the hell can't you speak Korean) A Japanese will smile and recognize the effort.
But if your'e fluent in their language, a telling point comes out. In Chinese, they adore you and think you are now like a Chinese. In Korea they are filled with pride and shock that you can speak Korean, but you're more like a novelty than anything else. In Japan they complement you and now feel they need to watch their words and are a bit suspicious of you that you can figure them out.
So take what you will from this; Sweden is a pretty discriminatory place as well etc, but there is a line between ignorance and educated and keeping one's culture intact as a country. Where that line is, I'm not going to make a judgement here, but if some foreigner says they want equal rights in my country and always shocked when things are not up to their sense of morality, seriously, you're in Korea, we're Korean, fuck off. When I'm in Switzerland, and people look at sometimes, well I'm the only white person sized Korean they have ever seen and I drink 5 pints of beer during Octoberfest and kiss the girls a bit more than I should when I'm saying good bye, well fuck it, of course they gonna look, I'm a foreigner to their land, and I respect their laws and enjoy their customs.
But dont' let it get you down, there will always be good and bad people, fuck the bad people and just enjoy the time with the good. It aint personal, it's just the way the world is.
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On February 05 2014 03:36 blubbdavid wrote: Are Swiss men manlier than other men?
I think so, they pretty bad ass in how they manage my cash lol.
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On February 05 2014 04:00 darkness wrote: It's bad to generalise but what makes Koreans stand out from the rest of the world in terms of positive character?
Intensity, practicality and honest emotion.
Koreans can be fucking hot/cold/warm/crazy/loving/psycho etc at any time all the time, but whatever we do, we do it to the max. We are intensely physical, emotional, spiritual, irrational and practical. Look at our pro gamer, and these kids are the ones who decided to flip off school and play games, think about all the kids that didn't do pro gaming and went to study and went into samsung and are building galaxy 8 by now. We are an intense people, including when love is in the air or in the bed. If we are friends, we are friends to the end, if we are enemies, then we are enemies to the end.
Practicality; if you give a Korean a task to do, any korean, we will figure out how to do the task in the most efficient, effective and greatest impact way possible; whether it is washing dishes or making 1 million micro cell phone chips with x number of cores, we'll do it faster, cheaper and more reliable than anyone on the planet.
We are honest with our emotions; we scream, we repress then scream, we scream and break things, we cry, we see our national anthem playing and we got bronze in the olympics, we tear, we get gold we out right just cry, we are tragic and will break up with someone because we dont' feel good enough and they deserve better, we say when we are lonely and when it is time to have fun, fuck it, we have fun, no matter how foolish we look or how immature it seems, we enjoy life and suffer together. (of course overseas Koreans are different because they too cool for school lol) but otherwise, everyone loves our dramas cause they are so in your face.
Add it all together and it's a bit nutty, but Koreans are usually described as quickly boiling water that also quickly cools, we are very practical, but emotional, but not emo emotional, but like raw emotional and for both the emotion and work, we do it, we fucking do it all in.
But it is hard to say that this is all positive, because on the flip side, our intensity brings us to take things too far the line with everything we do, our practicality can be a prison to those who are more creative and free spirited and sometimes we are too uncontrolled when we should be more rational.
But, anyway, true culture and life is about both the good and the bad accepted. ^^
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Have you ever been to the Netherlands? If yes, what were your impressions? If no, what would be your expectations?
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whens the first time you had sex?
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I have another question for you:
I live with my mom's boyfriend, his son, my mom and my brother. My mom's boyfriend's son (we'll call him John) is completely spoiled and gets away with everything. My mom tries her hardest to bring my brother up the best that he can, but he still gets jealous of John and feels that he is treated unfairly compared to him. My mom doesn't ask anything ridiculous from him, just that he does his homework, does his chores, try to be as flexible as possible when picking what to eat or in terms of his schedule. He can get really obnoxious and (in my opinion) is a direct result of my mom's boyfriend's horrible parenting influencing what he thinks is acceptable. Is there anything that I can/should do to help my brother understand, or is it not my responsibility and I should just try my best to give him advice when he needs it?
The second part of it is that my mom's boyfriend is completely irresponsible. He's a terrible parent, he embarrasses my mom constantly in front of us, and he is overall just not a good person. He makes really questionable calls (he gave his son Xanax because he asked for it (his son doesn't have a script for it), and he's done a lot of really bad stuff in the past. I don't like him at all, but I have to try my hardest to get along with him for the next year and a half or so until I leave for college. However, this can be really challenging. He does literally nothing all day, now that he's unemployed. He's been unemployed for over a year, he's out of unemployment, and he continues to just sit and watch TV all day. He's gotten even more obese, taken even worse care of himself, and does nothing to contribute around the house. He leaves the house a disgusting mess each day and continues to do nothing to improve it, whether it be fixing loose screws on stuff, fixing a banister, cleaning the kitchen, or even just vacuuming up.
Thanks hyung.
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On February 04 2014 14:10 MightyAtom wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 11:30 Thaniri wrote: Two schools, study at one abroad for free, but with a small language barrier/no friends, or take student loans and study at home in the native language and with local friends?
Both schools are equally unimpressive.
I don't really have a hard hitting question, I read the first part of this and really enjoyed your answers. You are giving a lot to this community, thank-you. First off, thanks for being sincere as well, it makes it worth it in my short time off. ^^ Fuck it, go for the one abroad, if we are talking about university it's time to make new friends and experience new thing- plus it's free and I'd say, the experiences that you would have staying at home would be vastly different from the ones you get abroad and this could literally change your entire outlook on life for the the rest of your life. At your age, I'd say this is relatively little risk for a massive gain. Yes, there will be a lot more issues, maybe cultural, but a lot of it will force you to recognize your own prejudices and beliefs, and native women love foreign guys, at least the wild ones do ^^ Plus student loans are a bitch. At the end of the day, people either crush undergrad or get crushed, but if you get something out of it, outside of the grades, it stays with you forever. I studied abroad as well, and I don't regret it for second, even though sometimes it was so tough.
I know well that women like foreign men. I have an accent in both languages, and it's such an easy conversation starter because they pick up on it and want to know more about me.
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Found the second thread; So thank you, I much appreciate it.
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In 2007, the New England Patriots had an 18-1 season in the NFL.
Before the season started, they suffered the tragic loss of one of their teammates in an unfortunate accident. It was a very rough period for the team.
At the beginning of the season, they looked like fucking rockstars. They found a way to deal with all the shit that everyone threw at them, and won their first few games very convincingly. Almost everyone knew that, realistically speaking, there was no way they were going to have a perfect season, because it's so fucking rare for that to happen, but they were playing so damn good. They had a few very close games, but still found a way to tough it out and prove they were the better team on that day.
Suddenly they're in the playoffs with a 16-0 record, and everyone has them as a favourite for winning the Lombardi trophy. It truly looked like they were going to win the Superbowl with an unprecedented perfect season, which would give them a 19-0 record. They win the first game, putting them at 17-0. They win the next game, putting them at 18-0. Finally, the big game. They're up against a team that they've already beaten to get to this point.
And we all know what happened. They lost it. It was such a heartbreaking loss for them.
They, as a team, started at such a bad point with the loss of one of their teammates, and they worked their asses off to show that they were the fucking kings, and then, right at the very end, they were dethroned..... And in a somewhat humiliating fashion. Everyone knew the game was over when they failed to covert the 4th and long, and everyone crowded the field in celebration of the victory by the Giants, yet they had to repeat the celebrations because the game still had 1 second left on the clock, causing them to re-live their defeat twice in a matter of minutes.....
My question is this. How do you get back up after getting knocked down like that? I'm sure you've had some experiences where things haven't worked out anywhere near as well as you hoped they would, yet you found a way to get back on track. I'm not talking about some minor mistake, I'm talking about some kind of catastrophic failure resulting in the loss of months or maybe even years worth of hard work and dedication..... I'm kinda going through one of those types of failures right now in my life, and it's really fucking tough to mentally keep going, I was hoping you'd have some kind of inspirational words of wisdom.
Btw, I absolutely love the effort you put into stuff like this. I loved reading all of your older blog posts.
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I've just spent the last 3 hours reading through all your previous replies and I have to say, I am glad that there are people like you in this world willing to openly share their experience and wisdom with others. I, myself, don't have a question; I just simply thought appreciation should be shown when it is due . Definitely a man worthy of being called 'hyung'!
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nice to read again,
snip + Show Spoiler + i'm a very lonely person, aged 29 , recently back in college which is only 2 days a week with 3 other people half my age, no job after working for 5 LONELY years as a nursing assisnant then more recently cleaning caravans for £4/hour and having to leave a shop assistant job because i wanted to die and no1 liked me, living with my mom and her BF (macho territorial controlfreak who i hate and avoid), the only person ive really talked to in the last 1-2 years is when i'm degenning it on dota with an old school friend, or when i visit my grandmother ~3 times a week which is stressful coz she just never shuts up about her tablets (so basically i can go months without talking to anyone), i've never had a girlfriend tho i've been rejected by "best friends" a many times and had years of emotional torment which ive finally come out of since she hasnt talked to me for 6 months coz she stopped giving a fuck a long time ago (fair enough), i suffer from random anxiety just talking to people like some tutors in college because i seem to have serious self-worth complex where i feel completely value-less (and rightly so) , i still blush walking past random young girls, i often think "really there is no point to any of this shit", i even randomly freak out about things like "i have to get off the bus soon, how should i say thankyou to the bus driver?" then freak out because i think he didnt hear me - i dont even know why i think these thoughts or feel these emotions, it must be a severe innate lack of selfworth-, so its nice to read from someone who believes in the power of focus and eventual achievement , because without any contact with anyone you dont get to feel that, theres nothing to invoke it in you , theres no sense of companionship or cause
i ran 40 miles the past 4 weeks plus gym, almost no video games (say 5 dotos per week, but still enough to fuck with my sleeping), getting my driving licence blood test tomorrow so job prospects++++ (only jobs where i live are minimum wage jobs - i live in a lifeless county - which are hard to get and honestly fucking pointless as shit if you are at the point in life where i am and cant be fucked with it all anymore, so car will let me get driving job maybe homecare for elderly), perhaps have a job offer related to my college course waiting to hear from, am uptodate with college work and grades and will be commuting out of county to go to university this september if continue as is,
however my time spent studying/doing work is still virtually nonexistant, i just waste all day every day doing nothing on the internet (not gaming). im talking literally weeks can go by and ive done nothing!!
i dont have a question for you because i'm old enough to know how to fix my problems, it just feels like i dont coz i never talk to anyone and am stuck by myself trapped in loneliness and anxiety until the gradual resolutions (qualifying at uni , getting into career, becoming independent, having a skill and self respect) . i guess you just got me writing my lazy, selfpitying lifestory for the 50th time, desperate for reassurance and pity from the outside world
maybe its a subconscious way of reminding myself to step my game up, coz thats what i get out of this by the end everytime i go on about it. for me its about synchronising several things: not gaming, sleeping early, eating properly, consistent gym, now running, not wanking (increase testosterone/livliness and less wasted time), not browsing web all day (FAIL) and studying (FAIL) and not smoking
putting it into fresh perspective, the past 4 weeks have been EXCEEDINGLY successful for me (relatively) , i just have to add studying now alongside everything else and i am at 100% efficiency and should experience extreme satisfaction and selfworth!
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Guys, I'm going to the airport in an hour, and taking a 6 hr flight to Doha as a stop over from Zurich, I'll answer when I land. I'll probably need to close the thread shortly after, but thanks for also making my contribution worthwhile as well ^^
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Hey, got to see this barely in time to ask:
Did the deal in the Philippines work out? I was curious if all the issues you had with regulations were eventually settled to both sides' satisfaction. Feel free to leave out details if necessary, I just wanted to know if you were happy with how it turned out.
Also, any comments on how good/bad it was outside of work, if you got to experience any of it?
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hello can someone help me Looking for an older movie. It's about two old. Many people think that they are very rich, so they came and propose different objects and others saying they are their heirs. Finally, their nephew really is sent by his mother to stay on vacation with grandparents. They did not believe that he is their grandson true, but left him to stay. Eventually become friends with him and every night he telling each part of their lives and how they got the entire wealth (a room filled with crates of money). Old people die in own plane (ii nephew persuaded to lead a happy life, so I started to spend a bit of money) After death, this grandson was 20-21 years, but even if they were happy with what grandparents died life living with her can someone help me?
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안녕하세요 형,
I don't post here much and I'm glad to have seen this post. I read through your first one and the quality of your replies told me that I should probably get advice from you (not sure when else I'd be able to receive such advice).
As for a little background, I'm currently about to graduate from a pretty good university (undergrad), and I'm set to work at Oracle as a Sales Consultant. It's an entry level job and it's not really that great, but I'm just glad I got a job. However, I'm just worried because I'm not so sure whether I'd be able to move up vertically. I hear that a lot of people look down on sales... and although I'm not exactly a sales rep, I'm still in the department (providing technical information about Oracle's products). What should I do to make sure I get the most out of this opportunity + move up within the company? Should I look for other opportunities?
Another worry is that I'm a philosophy major and I feel like I don't have any "skills". I feel like I should've gone into computer science or engineering because there's such a huge demand for them. How do I deal with this feeling of inadequacy of being a philosophy major? Should I go to law school? I don't want to sound cocky but I'm kind of smart and I'm sure I can do well enough on the LSATs to get into a top program. Or do you think an MBA would be better? Maybe I should've gone into finance..................................... I love philosophy, but sometimes I wonder if I chose the wrong major.
My final question has to do with religion. From your recommendation of the Bible as a book to read in the last blog, I'm presuming you are a Christian. What do you do to keep holding on to your faith? As a man who is financially quite well off, do you think you are giving back enough?
감사합니다. I think it's wonderful that you're doing this. If I'm ever successful as you are, I will make sure to do the same.
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