On March 23 2011 22:00 JMave wrote:
well anyway guys, just an update.
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well anyway guys, just an update.
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HER
It's cool. Anyway you seem to have thought that I was quite free or something like that, so just to let you know, I'm actually very busy now and hardly have time to come online. So don't misunderstand if you don't see me on msn or if I take a few days to reply your emails. Regarding meeting up, we'll see how it goes again if we ever happen to see each other online okay?
It's cool. Anyway you seem to have thought that I was quite free or something like that, so just to let you know, I'm actually very busy now and hardly have time to come online. So don't misunderstand if you don't see me on msn or if I take a few days to reply your emails. Regarding meeting up, we'll see how it goes again if we ever happen to see each other online okay?
Although it seems like things are looking better, I think she just feels bad so she wanted to make sure you didn't get hurt by any of her actions (past and future). This isn't as good as it may seem because - "we'll see how it goes again if we EVER happen to see each other ONLINE okay?" This just tells me that she doesn't really want to see you online again, and her preface ("If you don't see me on msn...") makes it seem to me like she is denying you in the nicest way she possibly can which is avoidance. Think about it logically - why would the discussion of meeting up be any different the next time you are both online? It wouldn't. She just doesn't want to say "No, never," to your face.
I could be wrong on this one because she might be the saint of forgiving and philanthropic pity, and therefore is just telling you how it is, although phrasing the last sentence poorly. However I find that to be highly unlikely.
Your best bet is to stop barking up this tree for a while, even if you see her online. Only talk to her after you've seen her online for a few times, and when you talk to her, make it productive. Be interesting, less desperate to meet up, etc. Next time you talk to her, I'd start with something like "I feel like I came off as a needy person last time and I'm not usually like that, sorry if I creeped you out," (whatever you feel comfortable saying to that effect). This shows you have understanding of her situation, which is an attractive quality in men. From then on you should try to be interesting and NEVER hint at meeting up in person, until many many conversations later. Picking up women over the internet through MSN chat and AIM is entirely possible because they are attracted to your persona, so once you meet in real life there is already a connection. On top of that, due to the nature of IM, you get a little more time to tweak what you say and this is like practice ;D GLHF